STOP ASKING DIRECTIONS TO PLACES THEY'VE NEVER BEEN
These are my vibes going into the new year - STOP ASKING DIRECTIONS TO PLACES THEY'VE NEVER BEEN 🚗. This is my favorite line from the intro song for the @wecandohardthingspodcast (http://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/). It can be so tempting to ask those around you for advise because they know you and you value their input but, it reminds me of an earlier blog post I did about how small mindsets can't comprehend big visions.
You may want to consider WHO you are bringing your dreams or ideas to. I love the example Trent Shelton gives on his podcast about not going to a plumber to fix your roof. They might be the best plumber in the whole damn world, but that doesn’t mean they know the first thing about fixing a roof. You are excited about your new business idea or the possibility of living your dream so you want to tell those you love about it. But if you’re bringing a big dream to a person that always stays in her lane or never takes risks, do you really think they are going to tell you to “go for it!”? The thought of doing the unknown is probably unfamiliar and uncomfortable for him/her/them to even think about. Again, it has no merit on the content of the idea or dream. (Here's the link to the rest of the earlier post based on Trent Shelton's podcast.). In a nutshell, NO ONE ELSE HAS A MAP FOR YOUR JOURNEY.
If you were a fan of the book Untamed by @glennondoyle I highly recommend getting Get Untamed the Journal to continue your untaming journey. In Glennon's words it's "all about how to stop pleasing and start living."
“We must stop asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. Every life is an unprecedented experiment. We are all pioneers. I created Get Untamed: The Journal as an interactive experience in charting our own way—so we can let burn that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is.”
We’re going on vacation this January and I’m excited to spend some time on the long flight filling mine out. You can get yours here.
PEOPLE ARE HARD TO HATE CLOSE-UP
Starting a new job, I’ve met so many people the past couple months. People who’s paths I may have never crossed if not for work. During covid, when we were all trapped at home, scared and isolated, it was easy to make assumptions about other people that we didn’t know. For example, making assumptions about what kind of person someone is based on his or her vaccination status. I still hope that everyone will get vaccinated because the scientists and medical professionals who have devoted their lives to studying disease and developing treatment say that is the best way for us to stay safe and they have the research to back it up. But, as the world slowly opens up again, I am realizing the truth of what Brené Brown says in her book Braving the Wilderness - “People are hard to hate close-up.”
Don’t get me wrong – we can completely disagree about something (and we likely will disagree about many things the more people we come in contact with) BUT I hope I can learn to disagree without disregarding the human behind the opinion. Because if you take the time to really get to know someone, to ask them why and how instead of writing them off completely, it is hard to hate them.
Brené Brown wrote Braving the Wilderness before covid but I’m just reading it now and feel like it’s even more applicable in the world today. Here is the full quote: “People are hard to hate close-up. Move in. Speak truth to bullshit. Be civil. Hold hands. With strangers. Strong back, soft front, wild heart.”
If you’re struggling to assimilate into this new “normal” and interacting with people again after isolation, I highly recommend this book. You can get more info about Brené and her books here.
HERE. SHE. IS.
Meet this years tree - Hoprah. In the past I’ve named our trees, so this year, Adam named her and I love it - like Oprah + hope. I love opening up each Christmas bin and unwrapping the ornaments and other Christmas treasures 🎄🥰💝. My favorite decorations are the flowers on the tree because I made those for our wedding 👰 🤵♂️. Especially since, because of work, we weren’t able to go to Northern California this year for the holidays, I wanted to make it feel as Christmasy as possible at home. For a better look at the tree check out my reel here.
My favorite Christmas decorations are my tiny houses I made out of scrap wood last year. Check them out here.
And you're not seeing double, we got to babysit Molly's boyfriend, Fluffy, for a few days. Aren't they the cutest couple?🥰
DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK
Today’s words of wisdom “Don’t believe everything you think.” I heard Tim Ferris share that gem on @BreneBrowns podcast Unlocking Us. Brown asked Ferris and Dax Shepard to share a bumper sticker/short slogan that’s true but that is potential is really misunderstood.
Ferris discussed how the stories we tell ourselves can shape our reality and we often just assume the truth of them or take them as fact. But realizing that everything you experience passes through the filter of your mind can help remind you that, although your brain is creating these stories in its attempt to protect you, these same stories can also aggravate things like fear and shame which can ruin our relationships with others. Listen to the whole podcast or read the transcript here.
I thought it was a powerful message and reminder. Maybe even especially during the holidays - which can be so emotionally charged - that just because we think something doesn’t mean it’s true. ❤️💗❤️
HAPPINESS DOESN’T LEAD TO GRATITUDE
Happiness doesn’t lead to gratitude - It’s gratefulness that makes you happy. I loved this idea from an interview of A.J. Jacobs on Ted radio hour. A.J. Jacobs set out to thank everyone who made his morning cup of coffee, quickly realizing that the chain of “thank-yous” was endless (including 1000s of people and multiple countries). It’s been a strange year (or 2 😳) but there is a lot to be grateful for. Here’s the link if you want to listen or read the transcript or his book.
A MESSAGE ABOUT THE HOLIDAYS
And on a related note, a message from my homie @codyrigsby on my ride this morning, “Moral of the story - be a nice ass person during the holidays” I’ll add - especially to people in retail!
GOODBYE OLD YEAR AND HELLO NEW YEAR👋🏻!
2021 - a year in review. It was another strange year but also a good one. It was a year for reconnecting and exploring - internally and externally. Entering 2022 with a grateful heart. Shoutout to @adamghijben and @mollythemaltishit for helping me get through it 💗. It was fun hopping on this trend creating a reel that summarized 2021. Check it out here.
NEW YEAR NEW FREEBIES
I was pretty heart broken that wasn't able to publish a 2022 planner. So much time, love and creativity goes into making them and I just felt I could not do them justice this year. You can bet 2023's will be back with a bang! But I don't want to leave you hanging - I will continue to offer Calendar printables every month to help you plan for a life of peace and purpose for as long as I can.
To get this months click HERE.
CHEERS TO YOU!
JANUARY 4, 2022
Brené Brown: “Hey, Mom. I’m super excited. I’m going to get in Wednesday. I’ll be there probably about noon. I cannot wait to see y’all. One thing I want to let you know is I know you love me, and I know you think a lot about me finding a partner and I love that you think about me and you worry about me. It’s okay to do that. What’s not okay is to talk about it with me. You can worry about me, you can think about it all the time, you can have a ton of questions, that’s okay. What’s not okay is to bring the questions to me and to talk about it in front of other people, even with me. You can talk about it with Aunt Julie, you can talk about it with whomever. I don’t want to be in that conversation.”
CREATION IS A PROCESS NOT A PRODUCT //
Reels can be fun. Reels can show your art and creations in a new way. Using transitions, adjusting the speed, making things magically appear. But I also worry that they gloss over the magic that is in the creation of something. Art isn’t only about the final result. It’s about all the feelings and emotions that went into it. It’s about the why behind it. It’s about all the time and energy and resources and skill that go into making something. Video edits can be interesting but I won’t forget about the real magic that happens behind the scenes.
Sometimes I make magic 🪄, sometimes I just make a mess 🤷🏼♀️. But the most important thing for me is to just keep making 💗.
"YOU'RE NOT STARTING FROM SCRATCH. YOU'RE STARTING FROM EXPERIENCE." ~ @createcultivate //
@createcultivate posted these words yesterday and I didn’t just read them - they spoke to me. You aren’t starting from nothing. You have a lifetime full of experience, wisdom, heartache, love, pain, and joy to build and grow on. It’s never too late to try something new! You already have some of the tools you’ll need - and the rest you can order from Amazon as you go.
How hard do the lyrics of lyrics All too Well (Taylor’s version) hit??? I think I've listened to it a million at this point.
"THE FUTURE IS ALWAYS BEGINNING NOW" - Mark Strand //
How many times have you thought to yourself, “I’ll be happy when X.” X could be getting the dream job, finding your person and getting married, loosing weight, having a baby, etc. But you don’t have to delay your happiness because things aren’t perfect - because things will never be perfect - and that’s okay! We are all works in progress and the journey is the fun part.
I recently started a “joy journal” and I keep a list of things that spark joy in it. The most recent entry was the “sticky toffee pudding” I had at date night this week. Another entry is about when I’m lying on the floor meditating and I hear Molly’s little tootsies walking towards me and then hear and feel her sniffing in my ear, just checking in on me and making sure that I’m okay. It might be “interrupting” my meditation but it always makes my fluffy little heart smile.
I definitely don’t have my whole life together but I give myself permission to find joy in little steps on my journey because its not really about an end destination at all - its about the trip along the way. If you need some tangible steps to help, I also highly recommend the book @happynotperfect by @poppyjamie
This was an actual photo of me getting ready to host Thanksgiving. Do you put your Christmas tree up before Thanksgiving or after? I usually do it after but since I didn’t have time to decorate very much for Halloween this year, I needed some Christmas cheer early this holiday season so I started early. ! I don’t care that it’s in the late 80s out ☀️ and I’m listening to music about it snowing - opening up all of my Christmas decorations SPARKS SO MUCH JOY!!!! Hope you’re having a very jolly week 💗🎄🧑🏻🎄
I hope everyone had a very Happy Thanksgiving. I'm thankful for many things this year and if your are here reading this YOU are most definitely one of them.
SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY
As a radical act of self care I did not do a cyber sale in my etsy shop (ladiekatie.shop) this year 😱. I don’t want to work more for less - so I’m not going to 🤷🏼♀️.
My other shops are having sales though if you’re looking for deals:
My blog post was late but I did get the December freebies out reasonably on time. If you missed them, kick start your month HERE with a FREE December calendar and free phone wall papers. 🗓🎄🎅🏻
DEC 1, 2021
WE CAN DO HARD THINGS!
Including surviving when instagram is down. Inspired by my favorite podcast right now we can do hard things hosted by @glennondoyle . It’s seriously the best. I feel like Glennon, sister and Abby are my friends, even if they don’t know I exist. I listen to them on the way to work and it always puts a smile on my face - it feels like someone holding your heart when you can relate to what they’re talking about.
I also love Glennon and Abbys relationship -
they are so sweet together - they’re totally different but for whatever reason
they just work. Do you listen to We Can
Do Hard Things? I need a pod squad! Currently, I just tell Adam about whatever
they discuss that week and then we talk about it too.
BE YOUR OWN HYPE CREW!
I posted a reel this month of me saying “You gotta check out this artist out. Her art is awesome” and, other me, responding “that’s you.”
I don’t know why as an artist it can feel so weird/awkward to announce it or say it out loud. But what I do know is that if you don’t share that information it is very unlikely that someone will randomly ask you “hey, are you an artist?” If you don’t share it people won’t know to ask about it and won’t get to see the beauty you bring to the world. So if you feel uncomfortable declaring to the world that you are an artist - practice it! The more you practice the more you’ll get used to it. It may still feel awkward but it will be an awkward that you get accustomed to. And there will be one more person in the world that’s seen what you create.
WORLD MENTAL HEALTH DAY 2021
Sunday, October 10th was World Mental Health Day and I am happy to live in a day and age where such a day exists. We all have mental health and just like eating right, getting enough sleep or exercise, we need to take care of our mental health. One way of doing that is by talking TALKING about it and to get help of you are struggling. I share about my mental health - most frequently about my ADHD probably but also about being emotionally sensitive - because I find it comforting when I hear about other people that have similar struggles. Here are some of the people I like following here in the Instagram world @connor.dewolfe @cobywatts @thepsychdoctormd . All to say that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. My experience has been that the more I share the more I learn and feel connected with others. 💗
"IT'S NOT MY JOB TO MAKE YOU BELIEVE IN ME. BELIEVING IN MYSELF IS ENOUGH."
I had a dream the other night that I was trying out for an ice hokey team. The rest of the team wasn’t being very nice and there was one lady in particular who was picking on me, saying I was too girly, too sparkly, etc and that I wouldn’t make the team. I just looked at her calmly and said the words, “It’s not my job to make you believe in me. Believing in myself is enough.”
Like, where tf did that come from? IDK but when I woke up I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and such relief. Maybe saying these words - even if only to yourself - will help you feel the same.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BABYSIT YOUR ART
Art is finding a place to tell the truth and knowing it’s not your responsibility for how others respond to it. I share my deepest thoughts and feelings in my art. You’re invited to engage with them. I hope they make you think. I hope the my make you feel. I hope they inspire you to find a way to express yourself in your own way too. But if they don’t that’s okay too. I’ll still keep making things that show my insides on the outside. I’ll help hold the door open - everyone’s invited in the creativity club! Thoughts and words are inspired by the latest @wecandohardthings episode with @glennondoyle about being an artist & creative 💗.
Still no one:
Me (laughing at my own joke): I’M DEAD 😂😂😂😂😂☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
I hope you had a happy Halloween!
I'M NOT QUITTING – I'M SETTING MYSELF FREE
Did you know that the origin of the word quit is quietus which actually means to set free?
So, it actually started as a positive thing – being free and clear of something. It’s only the modern interpretation that led it to have this negative association. So, I actually think quitting can be a good thing!
Right now, I’m focusing on quitting living up to other people’s expectations, versions and vision of me. For some people that might be a big dramatic thing like leaving a toxic relationship or leaving a job devoid of happiness. But little things are important too – and doing these daily little brave quits can help build our confidence and train us for quitting the bigger things too.
For example, I LOVE Halloween. I love planning elaborate costumes, I like making the costumes, I like putting on the costumes, I like showing the costumes. I like everything having to do with dressing up. I have dressed up and celebrated Halloween every single year of my life. Last Halloween because of covid we didn’t do much – we dressed up like Andy Warhol, Marilyn Monroe and Warhols’ famous soup can and just took a walk around the neighborhood. Sure, I would have preferred a huge Halloween party but I enjoyed doing my Marilyn makeup, getting in my costume, and seeing how cute Molly and Adam looked in their costumes too.
This Halloween was different. Well, first of all, we had planned to be in Connecticut and New York. Adam dropped the wood backing of the arcade he built on his toe and thought it was broken. Turns out its not broken but it was all black and blue and he couldn’t walk around the house on it, let alone walk and explore all over Connecticut and NY. I had also, accidentally, asked for the wrong days off of work (typical). So, begrudgingly, we canceled our trip.
So, we made plans to go to a friends and were supposed to dress up like a koala, a baby koala and a tree which I was excited about and thought was fun since Adam is Australian. But Molly baby hurt her back. Part of me wanted to get dressed up and take pictures and post them and share them, but all those reasons this year just didn’t feel like they were actually for my own enjoyment – it felt like it would have been for the external version of me or to appease the way people see me. The idea of dressing up when I was worried about Molly felt like a chore. So, I decided to listen to the internal me who just wanted to stay in bed in PJs and snuggle Molly. And that’s what we did. We also had some wine and I kicked Adam’s butt playing Mario Kart. After surrendering and quitting my own expectations of how halloween "should be" and acknowledging the role of others expectations that made me feel like "I must do something" I was able to enjoy our halloween for what it was this year.
After a week of bedrest, Molly is finally feeling better, thank goodness. And in retrospect, it would have been horrible and so stressful to have been away when she hurt her back. Signs can't make you read them - you gotta do that part.
Anyway, this is just a reminder that it’s okay to quit – especially when whatever you are quitting isn’t serving you. It’s hard to quit things that you feel are expected of you but that’s why practicing little quits can help you when you need to set yourself free from something bigger.
ALL ABOUT THAT DRAMA
So this is a cool thing that happend. I met @ninamariedaniele twice. She's so funny and was so nice in real life. And even prettier too! Her boyfriend took a pick of us and I was wondering what was taking so long when he took it. When I got my phone back I realized that he had taken a bunch of pics and Nina was doing different poses and I was just sitting there frozen expecting one snap. Guess he understood the assignment! (I however did not)
ART ISN'T SHOWING OFF - IT'S SHOWING UP!
And - because art is my love language - this is how I show up for you. I hope your freebies this month bring so much happiness to your heart and home. Click HERE to download them.
Thankful that you're here with me,
OCTOBER 31, 2021
No One Else is Supposed to Understand Your Calling - It Wasn't a Conference Call
WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF INSTEAD OF COUNTING YOURSELF OUT YOU COUNT ON YOURSELF INSTEAD?
It feels like a lot of creatives right now, myself included, are counting ourselves out. Instagram was our happy place to share our work, our love, our passion, connect with other creatives and people/customers/fans/clients. And, now that instagram is no longer a photo sharing app, it can feel like we’ve gotten all dressed up for a party that no one else showed up for. We’re sharing our same heartfelt work but not many people see it and even fewer comment. For those of us running our own creative businesses, the thought of adding yet another thing to our plate - i.e. creating, filming, editing reels - can just feel overwhelming. Some of us feel paralyzed and ready to throw in the towel. I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this lately but the more I share about myself, it feels like the less people “like” me. This could also just be my rejection-sensitive dysphoria talking (thanks ADHD).
Anyway, it makes me sad hearing about all the artists that are so frustrated by the changes instagram has made because I want them to keep sharing their work! I can’t imagine what the world would look like if we stop sharing - can you? So if you follow creatives and want them to keep sharing the beautiful things they make please encourage them to do so! HOW you ask? LIKE, COMMENT, SAVE, SHARE and REPOST their post to name a few. Unfortunately, the old double tap isn’t enough right now - we need to pull out all the stops and do ALL of these. Let’s show creatives that this can still be their happy place. That our faces light up when we see what they’ve created. THAT WE WANT THEM HERE. Please TAG A CREATIVE BUSINESS BELOW that you love so we can all find new creatives to support and love. Let’s SHOW UP for creatives right now! WE NEED THE SUPPORT! THANK YOU.
And to the small businesses owners out there - I see the sacrifices you make, the little details, like your packaging, your handwritten notes, and the love you pour into every order. YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB! Keep on going! We all win when we root for each other. There is only one of me - no one is going to take my place. Just like the good doctor said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” ― Dr. Seuss. So why not lift each other up?! From the bottom, top, & everything in between, of my heart, I want you to win too 💗
PLEASE DON'T BE UGLY
I don’t know if this is part of the creative process for everyone, but for me, sometimes, there is a little, on going, silent prayer going on in my head as a work. It doesn’t matter how many dog portraits I’ve painted or drawn, there is always a sigh of relief when I’ve finished and feel like I’ve done what I set out to do (or sometimes, despite not doing what I set out to do, I like the way things turned out). Art isn’t a math equation. There are so many internal and external factors that impact its creation - what is my mood when creating? Do I have an emotional connection to the subject? Do I feel rushed? But that is part of the beauty of it. You can think you put the same ingredients in a someone else and end up with completely different results.
I love this quote by @glennondoyle, “Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body life it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched up paintbrush is completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that YOU HAVE A PAINTBRUSH which can be used to transfer your insides onto the canvas of your life - where others can see it and be inspired and comforted by it.” It’s a metaphor for life using art but I think it’s applicable to creativity as well 💗
WHAT YOU THINK YOU NEED FROM OTHERS YOU CAN GIVE TO YOURSELF
No caption needed. Oops that was a caption…. So while we’re here, what do you think of this idea? I find it pretty empowering. In fact, a lot of the motivational messages of my art are the things I used to long for other people to say to me. Having ADHD, I yearn for praise and positive reinforcement - it can feel like I “need” the reassurance that I’m doing a good job. The older I got, I realized the less freely and less frequently these things are given. So I decided to provide them for myself. Don’t get me wrong, its still nice to get compliments and kind words from others, but if you’re not getting the kind of support you need from them, you can provide them for yourself too - give it a try. And then you’ll realize that what you think you need from others you can give yourself.
I WANT TO DO WHAT I LOVE AND BE ABLE TO SUPPORT MYSELF
I posted a reel of me singing what sounds like the beginning of the lion king song but with the words, “I need a sugar daddy to come pay my bills.” I thought it was funny. But all joking aside, I don’t actually want a sugar daddy. I want to be able to do what I love and make enough money to support myself and be financially independent.
Sometimes, when you’re a creative though that can feel impossible. It’s such a strange position to be in to be told both that your artwork brings such joy and happiness BUT people are constantly trying to short change you. The irony here is that the more you nickel and dime artists and creatives the less likely it is that we will be able to continue to do what we love to support ourselves and the more likely it is that we will have to stop creating beautiful things in exchange for a steady, more traditional, job. I’m at a point where working 24/7 to just get by is really taking its toll. From the outside it may look like people buy my art so that is a “success” (which, please make no mistake, I am incredibly thankful for) HOWEVER that doesn’t take into consideration whether it is actually SUSTAINABLE.
I share this because I don’t want to contribute to the mistaken illusion (or delusion) that running your own business is a walk in the park. It isn’t. We don’t choose this life because it’s easy. We chose it because we love creating, bringing joy, and making the world a more beautiful place. Full stop.
ONE STEP AT A TIME
In fact, I recently started a new full time job. The goal is to ultimately do interior design but first I must lay the groundwork for that. Which requires that I get to know the various furniture, designs, and services offered by my new company like the back of my hand. It also means that after years of working from home, I am going out into the world again! It has been an interesting, sometimes challenging adjustment. The first day I came home so exhausted from walking around the huge warehouse and talking to people all day that I told Adam, “maybe I’m actually an introvert.” I’m not, I’m as extroverted as they get, but after a year and a half of me, Adam and Molly living in a box together, I was sure out of practice talking to people all day. Onboarding, learning the ins and outs of a new company and their culture felt like A LOT. None of this has anything to do with the new company - everyone has been so nice, welcoming and helpful. I just want to be honest about my experience going out into the world again and getting a new job during a pandemic. Everyday I get a little more used to this new chapter of life. Used to the uncomfortableness of not knowing everything or having all the answer but being willing to learn knew things and figure things out as they come. Sometimes I feel like I’m on that show “Undercover Boss” – except that I’m poor and, in fact, not anyone’s boss. But I do feel like I’m going under cover, learning all of these things about a business I did not know much about and trying to blend in like I know what I’m doing.
Many aspects of this new job are challenging. One being that it is my first job as an adult no longer on my ADHD medication which is an adjustment. It can be hard to focus and hard to remember information casually spewed out by leadership or co-workers when I have auditory processing/working memory issues. I carry around my girlboss notepad to jot down notes along the way. No one else has a notebook but I know this is how I learn, digest and remember things so I have to do what works for me - no matter what that looks like to other people. Another downside of no longer being on medication is that my brain gets really overwhelmed in the afternoons and, when working from home, I would take power naps. That’s obviously not an option at work (although I really wish that it was and would totally be in support of a nap time/nap room. Just saying.) so I've had to figure out new and different ways to let my brain take a break. Most people eat lunch inside in the break room. I’ve found that sitting outside in the sunshine and silence actually works well for me. Not the same as a nap but gives my brain a little break from all the new chaos it’s surrounded with.
The biggest adjustment has been being away from Molly baby. We are used to doing everything together. I mean she even came with me to the bar all four times until I passed. And being trapped inside together for a year and a half hasn’t done anything to help our separation anxiety. Luckily, Adam is still working from home so she is not home alone and he sends me picks and texts me throughout the day so I can know what they’re up to as I get used to this transition.
I think a lot of people put pressure on themselves to find the perfect position and job (hi, i'm people 🙋♀️). In all honestly, I don’t know if I’ll be at this position forever but I do think it’s been a great way to get back out there into the world again. I am exhausted but I am learning a lot. I still have a lot to figure out and how this will affect my art business, including my blog, my newsletter, my orders, etc, I’m not totally sure. I’m going to have a lot to figure out as I go and things will change. But change isn’t always a bad thing so I’m going with it and hoping it will lead to new opportunities, experiences, perspectives and ideas.
PROVE THEM WRONG QUEEN
In the words of her majesty, Queen Taylor, "We live in a world where anyone can say anything that they want about you at any time. But just please remember you have a right to prove them wrong." I'd like to add that you actually don't have to prove anything to anyone. The only persons opinion of you that matters is your own. Just because someone says something does not make it a fact and does not make it true.
NO ONE ELSE IS SUPPOSED TO UNDERSTAND YOUR CALLING - IT WASN'T A CONFERENCE CALL.
HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Adam and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary September 29th. So here's my shout out to my Roo:
There is no one I would rather survive an apocalypse with or do life with. I know it’s a thing people say that “I don’t deserve you” - but I do. And so do you. I wish for everyone to experience the kind of love you have shown me - and that we have created together. It’s not always an easy love (long distance from opposite sides of the globe is not for the faint of heart) but I don’t need easy - I need real. Because - especially after this past year - we know that life isn’t always easy. I will choose hard with you over easy with anyone else. Together we can walk through fire. We are so different in many ways yet for some reason we work so well together. You are the one that makes sure we get to where we’re trying to go and I’m the one that distracts us, writing the songs to pump us up along the way (as well as bring snacks and comedic relief) to keep things interesting. I love you. Thanks for being my partner in crime in life.
As usual, here are your monthly freebies. I hope they bring an a little extra dose of happiness to your heart and home. Click HERE for the FREE October Calendar and phone wall paper.
OCTOBER 4, 2021
You're going to figure it out. It may be messy - but it will be worth it. That's at least what I'm telling myself this final day of being 34. It's been quite a month - from wedding celebration, to taking care of sick loved ones, to getting horrible food poisoning, there were a lot of bumps in the road. Not everyday is easy BUT I'M STILL HERE. And I am so grateful for that.
Maybe I’m feeling sentimental since my birthday is on September 2nd, so it feels right to share my OG girlboss today 💁🏼♀️. When I drew her, it was like a light bulb went off - you know how you always give your real name when you order a coffee? But really you can give whatever name you want and be that person - even if it’s only fleeting while you finish your drink. In life, I can decide what and who I want to become. I can try on different hats and different titles. I’ll always be a person with many slashes and I don’t have to confine myself to a single title for the comfort of others. This girlboss is when I began embracing that idea and for that reason she will always hold a special place in my heart 💗. Artists out there - do you have a piece like this for you? A piece that felt like the beginning?
"Eat, drink, and be married."
Love was in the air this month as we went to our friends wedding in Petaluma. There’s a lot to be thankful for and to celebrate - especially after the past year and a half. It also made me think of our wedding anniversary quickly approaching 9/29. I can’t believe it’s been 3 years since we’ve said “I do.”
𝘾𝙐𝙏 𝙊𝙁𝙁 𝘿𝙀𝘼𝘿 𝙀𝙉𝘿𝙎 𝙁𝙊𝙍 𝙂𝙍𝙊𝙒𝙏𝙃 (𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘪𝘳…) 💇♀️ //
This ones dedicated to all the people who have taken the time to really get to know me - who read my lengthy posts, who send me messages, who comment and share, who laugh at my sometimes cringey jokes, who cheer for me, who console me, who trust me with their secrets, who share their vulnerabilities. Yes, there are some crappy people out there in the world but if you make space for them, there are also so many caring and kind ones. Some I had the pleasure of seeing this past weekend and some I see here, daily, in the instagram world. I’m so thankful for you all. And, if you’re reading this, you’re likely one of them 🥰
THANK YOU DOCTORS, NURSES, HEALTH PROFESSIONS, SCIENTISTS AND IMMUNOLOGIST for dedicating your lives to keeping us healthy and safe. I’ve been a bit quite the past week and that’s because some of my loved ones have tested positive for covid and I’ve been a bit freaked out. I am thankful that - because they are vaccinated - they are hopefully already on their way to recovering. Yes, there are breakthroughs of the virus but I am so grateful that, because of the dedication of those listed above who tirelessly developed this life saving vaccine, they will survive. My aunt got covid at the beginning of the pandemic, before vaccines were available, and sadly covid took her life - we didn’t have the tools to protect her and so many others at that time. The people who have dedicated their lives, education and careers to this say that the risk of getting covid-19 far out weigh the risk in getting vaccinated and my family has experienced this first hand. I’ve attached some slides from @goodgoodgoodco that include helpful resources as well as this poster about how to speak with friends and family about false information online: bit.ly/SpeakUpNLP
The bottom line is that this pandemic affects everyone and everyone acting individually won’t bring it to an end. We have chosen to live in communities to enjoy the benefits that come along with that - roads, schools, police, etc - and along with these benefits also comes responsibility - we pay taxes, we follow laws, etc. Let’s be good neighbors to one another and keep each other safe.
(Also, if you want to thank a health care worker or workers there’s a link in my bio to download them for free - let’s thank as many of these heroes as possible! bit.ly/maskprintables)
QUESTIONS NO ONE ASKS ME
I've been experimenting with reels more and it feels like a bumpy road. Sometimes it feels like an exciting new way to connect with others. Sometimes it feels overwhelming with all the "cans", "needs", "shoulds", and "should nots" when it comes to making them. I recently attempted the viral chopping dance/with questions (and learned that I do not in fact know how to clap) and unlike the originals, I answered questions no one asks me as artist, starting with, "can I pay you more?"
So here’s the fine print from that post.
*****supporting someone’s dreams doesn’t have to cost anything! ****** There are many FREE ways to show creatives/makers/artist that you believe in them & encourage them to keep on going. Here are some free ways to support us:
1️⃣. Like our posts AND comment on them! (If you like what you see please TELL us 🙏)
2️⃣. Save our posts (apparently this helps with the mysterious algorithm- and that helps us be seen by more people which means more opportunities to share what we love and also new potential customers so we can support ourselves financially too.
3️⃣. Share our posts with friends, in your stories, in the comments, in a message etc (same reason as above)
4️⃣. Sign up for our newsletter. We create them for free for you. It takes a lot of time/energy/love & when you sign up/read them/use the free downloads (post about them, tell your friends about them, etc) it shows us you want us to keep sharing, that you like what we’re putting into the world and that you believe in us.
5️⃣. Ask us about our small businesses or what we’re working on. Many people don’t understand the day to day ongoings of running your own business & I think that can make people feel uncomfortable asking about it. But it feels nice to be included in those kinds of conversations & asked questions. Unfortunately, I think a lot of us feel uncomfortable bringing up what we do/what we’re working on because of our past experiences of our life’s work being reduced to a hobby with little value. Just asking us about it can mean a lot 💗
Loving yourself is the start of the revolution. The world seems to be falling apart (it of course has been for a long time). Things are really heavy now. Sometimes I feel frozen. I thought this would be the year we’d start to try to bring a child into the world but I am also scared of what kind of world we’d be bringing that child into. Can anyone else relate? I know I can’t control everything around me but I am, everyday, trying to love and honor myself because it all starts there.
Also, when I posted this illustration on instagram I forgot "of the" so it just said "loving yourself is the start revolution." Sometimes I get so excited about an idea that I miss details, like my arch nemesis, spelling, or forgetting words. I'm definitely not perfect. Just trying my best.
HUMAN + KIND
There is so much going on in the world right now. Sometimes you just want to turn off the news and not think about it - I know, I've been there. But these are the moments we must pay attention to. This is how we cultivate our humanity and empathy. How fortunate we are to experience these things by watching the news as opposed to first hand. And with that privilege comes a responsibility to do what we can to help.
IF WE CLOSE OUR EYES TO THE WORLD, HOW CAN WE CHANGE IT?
I have been blown away by the efforts of Tommy Marcus's (ie THE @QuentinQuarantino) in creating one of the biggest grassroot humanitarian efforts ever to organize a rescue mission for safe passage for Afghans in critical danger. So I created some free printables for you to download if you donate to his gofundme (Gofund.me/54c36b1c) or any other humanitarian efforts in Afghanistan or Haiti. I thought they’d be cool to share - kind of like when people vote and they get a sticker - a little badge of honor that we are all in this together. A reminder that little gestures matter & can make a big difference. So please download them here bit.ly/humankindletsdothis and share on social media where you donated (we’re doing the honor system). Let’s encourage each other to lift each other up and make the world a better place!
*Please note that these downloads are for personal use only. Copyright 2021 © Ladie Katie by Katie Robert
Download of these items does not grant transfer of copyright. I, the artist, retain all copyright privileges. May not be sold or redistributed.
It's challenging to translate some of my recent reels into blog posts. I am adjusting to sharing my work and myself in this way. Specifically, the person behind the art, the reasons I create it and the things I struggle with making it and selling it. Some people say you should only share reels for your target market so for me that would be potential customers and to steer clear of anything that could turn them off from buying. But another critical aspect of social media for me is connecting with other creatives! And one way of doing this is by commenting on our many shared experiences, such as this reel I created about people saying they are huge fans and then asking you to send them your work for free.
All joking aside - if you love a small business please SUPPORT IT! And just to be *VERY* clear, asking an artist for their work for free in exchange for posting a picture of it on instagram is NOT how you show support - it’s actually really insulting, demeaning and it’s just really not nice. If you can’t afford to buy someones art but love it and want to support her/him/them, check out my reel called “questions no one asks me as an artist” for a bunch of FREE ways to support artists. Let’s show artists that we VALUE them so they continue to make beautiful things - because EARTH without ART is just EH
THE CDC RECOMMENDS TO FREE BRITNEY
While the FDA has granted full approval of the Pfizer/BioNTech Covid-19 vaccine, the CDCs guidelines remain the same: even if you are fully vaccinated #FREEBRITNEY
// seriously though, I hope that the approval encourages more people to get vaccinated 🙏. Having family now experience getting covid who are vaccinated and who were not vaccinated, although the former got really scary sick, they’re still alive to talk about it and those who got sick before being able to get vaccinated are not.
ᴇᴠᴇʀʏ ʙᴏᴅʏ ɪꜱ ᴀɴ ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀ ʙᴏᴅʏ ᴜɴʟᴇꜱꜱ ʏᴏᴜ’ʀᴇ ʟɪᴠɪɴɢ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴀꜱᴛ - Sarah Nicole Landry
Art inspired by the words of @thebirdspapaya 💗
I’ve been MIA for a few days recovering from food poisoning. It was so horrible, I actually thought I was going to die. Being on the other side of things now though, I’m pretty in awe of the things that our bodies can do. It knew I had taken in something harmful and triggered a response on it’s own to get it out. That’s pretty amazing isn’t it? Although not enjoyable in the least, I’m thankful for what my body has done to keep me safe and alive. And I don’t think I’ll be eating mushrooms for a while … 🤢
Unfortunately, it means we had to cancel my birthday trip to Vegas (because the only liquids I can stomach right now are gatorade). But I'm so thankful for Molly being the best dogtor there is - she literally followed me as a ran to the bathroom to barf my brains out, sat at the door and escorted me back to bed and hasn't left my side. Shout out to Adam for also taking care of me when he too got food poisoning but still mustering the strength to order gatorade to be delivered, rubbing deep heat on my arms for my fibromyalgia and rubbing my back as I blew chunks (because I am the worst barfer and a total dramatic pansy).
Someone: What do you do?
Me: WHATEVER IT TAKES
Trying to start off a new year of life with this mindset - to show up, not to give up. Not in a self-destructive, overworked kind of way. But in a self compassionate, realistic way, that some things don't happen over night, some things take time to take shape, but keep on going. And you too, friends - keep on trucking. YOU GOT THIS. Share this with someone who may need a reminder 💪💗🥰
IS A PSA - NORMALIZE: Discovering &
chasing new dreams in your 30’s, finding love in your 40’s, finding yourself
& your purpose in your 50’s. Life
doesn’t end at 25. Let’s stop acting
like it does.
Illustration and words inspired by a post I came across by @dietitiandeanna that spoke to me. I had a moment at Disneyland on Tuesday where I just noticed that there were so many really young parents with multiple children. I wondered to myself “am I like really behind here?” Then I realized I am so thankful that I’ve had the opportunity to explore who I am, learn to love myself, to evolve, and follow my passions as we contemplated beginning this journey into parenthood. No shade intended for young parents - just a reminder that everyone is on their own path. I’m appreciative of mine even though it’s different than others. Go at your pace. I feel like I’m just getting started.
WHO'S FOR YOU?
@JayShetty said that “it’s not hard to recognize when someone is no longer for you. It’s just hard to accept it,” and maaaaan isn’t that the truth! Like the not so subtle back handed compliments, or when you realize someone is no longer rooting for you (and sometimes maybe even rooting against you). Breaking up with someone you were friends with is so hard and painful - sometimes even more so than when a romantic relationship ends. But, just like how you don’t need to stay in a relationship that isn’t working, you don’t need to stay in a friendship that has expired either. I have been heartbroken over friendships that have ended but also, in retrospect, I can now see how draining, toxic and one sided some of those friendships were. It’s hard to accept the truth of the situation that someone’s no longer for you but, when we’re honest with ourselves, it’s sure not hard to see. This may seem like a strange caption for an illustration of besties but after experiencing “friendships” where someone isn’t there for you, it makes you really cherish the ones who are. Especially the ones who support you and lift you up when you don’t ask for it - or don’t even realize you need it. The ones who know that your successes are not their failures and vice versa. The ones that cheer for you in private the same way they cheer for you in public. Those are truly special friendships to be cherished and they are worth the work.
On a related note: if my words and art speaks to you, can you do me a favor and let me know? I can see people sharing my posts in the app and that’s awesome but I can’t see who you’re sharing it with or what you’re saying when you share it (is it something you agree with? Is it something you disagree with? Is it something you hadn’t thought about before?). I try to put out art and messages to let you know that I’M FOR YOU. If you are for me too, sharing and reposting is great, but it would also be nice to hear it and know what is speaking to you (or not speaking to you). 😬🙏💗
When you are an artist, inspiration is EVERYWHERE! Where do you find inspiration? 🐶🥰✨🌈💗
I’ve been trying to dip my toes into this reel thang a little bit more. A bit on the fence about them. I think you can make some pretty cool and interesting videos on reels but I also feel like what is real about reels? I love being able to showcase my work, ideas, creative process with you all here on instagram. I like the option of experimenting with different ways to do that buuuuut - maybe I’m just an old fart - I also want to just be able to share what I’m actually working on with you instead of becoming a mini movie director ya know? It takes a lot of time away from an artists work to create these - recording clips, combining them, editing them, finding the right sound or music & adding it, adding captions at the right time, etc for 15 seconds of content. I’m all about offering them as another way of expressing yourself but I also want to be able to continue to showcase my work as photos because I think they too tell stories. I wonder what value is all this content of ourselves lip-syncing other peoples words? It can be funny and entertaining but should it replace our own words, our own creations? What are your thoughts about reels? Just being transparent about my thoughts at the moment. They may change and yours may too and that is fine 👍. We are allowed to change our minds and grow and adapt - and that is a beautiful thing. If you’ve made it this far - Happy Monday 💗
Somedays I feel like a bad bitch. Other days I just feel bad bitch. Ya feel me? // when I saw all the reels saying this I knew I had to make an illustration reflecting the vibe because I know it well. I get really excited when I hear/read/think something, get a vision of it in my head and create it/bring it to life with my art. That is the bad bitch feeling.
Then comes sharing it on Instagram now and the lack of pushing photos and dwindling engagement for them - and that can just feel bad. bitch. Putting your heart out there to crickets. But it is what I love - creating and sharing. So, at least for now, I’ll keep doing that. Whether you are a friend, fan, family or all or some of the above, if you want me to keep on sharing photos of my art (despite the algorithm) please let me know by liking, commenting and saving my posts. That’s how I know you’re still here with me and want me to continuing to share my creations.
Here are some other bad ass artsy bitches I recommend you checkout: @theprettypinkstudio @rollinginthedoughaz @modernmaye @daynaleecollection @de.almeida.illustrations @chiconpaper @samssimpledecor @marirdesign @yolanda.fernandes.ly
HELLO FROM THE LADIE KATIE FACTORY LINE
Reminder that not everything you see on reels is all that REAL. We show the things we want to show in a way we want them to be seen. I’m guilty of this too - if I’m going to show my office, I usually clean it first! (because usually it’s a disaster/looks like a hurricane went through it.) Just something to keep in mind while looking at everyone’s perfectly curated squares - there’s a closet full of crap that they aren’t showing you. And, with social media, it’s easy to make the things that we do choose to share, appear in a carefully tailored/on brand way that may - or may not - be fully accurate (think of those exercise clips where the woman just moves her stomach in and out and then POOF she has abs! Which I read was really twins showing how crazy these fad videos can be) In other news, Adam got a treadmill for his office! 😂.
There are always flowers for those who want to see them - Henri Matisse 💐
Adam and I had the best day yesterday - and yes there were lots of flowers! Adam got a new wedding ring, we had a lovely lunch, did some shopping, saw some flowers, got some fro yo, and ended the day with pizza delivery and watching 101 Dalmatians with Molly and her boyfriend, Fluffy. Absolute perfection. I hope you took some time to smell the roses this weekend 🌹
THERE'S A HERO...
Reminder: YOU are the hero in your story. You choose the narrative. Write your own story. Be your own hero. Don’t like the story line? Change it up! I believe in you. 💗 Katie
// I know it’s easier said than done and I am needing this message right now too. The things that I want and need to change won’t change unless I do. It is hard but I’m taking baby steps to get there. Even heroes have to battle things out - if they saved everyone with a snap of their fingers it sure would be a short (and not very entertaining) story. So I’m trying to embrace the hard part as a critical part of the story line too.
𝙏𝙀𝘼𝙈 𝙎𝙄𝙈𝙊𝙉𝙀 🇺🇸
What an incredibly STRONG woman in every sense of the word. She is a survivor and a fighter that deserves our support, love and well wishes. I’m so impressed that despite what I can only imagine to be an extremely triggering environment for her (after being assaulted and molested by Nassar and the various people/organizations that covered for him/allowed it to continue for so long) that - despite pulling out of her events for mental health - she is still there continuing to cheer on her fellow olympians. WOW. Simone is a true warrior and champion.
SAFE, GRATEFUL & LOVING
May I be safe from inner and outer harm
May I be grateful
May I be loving
May You be safe from inner and outer harm
May You be grateful
May you be loving
May all beings be safe from inner and outer harm
May We be grateful
May We be loving
~ Aditi Shah
I really appreciated this guided meditation I did with Aditi yesterday. Such a great reminder to take time to be grateful for our own lives but also to think about how often we extend that gratefulness and prayers to others - even to strangers. Yet another beauty from yoga and meditation - we are all connected. Seems especially pertinent right now as the pandemic rages on to remember that our choices affect others. We know that we are all connected but we chose whether to honor the responsibility that comes with it 💗
VISITING DISNEYLAND POST COVID - THINGS I RECKON YOU SHOULD KNOW
Adam’s birthday party theme this year was “May the Forties be with You” so, naturally, one of his gifts was a ticked to DisneyLand! My brother was also visiting from Northern California so we made it a family affair and had a blast.
I love the podcast Stuff You Should Know. I think it’s so cute when Adam says “I reckon…” and, because he knows a little bit about everything, I told him he should start his own podcast called “Stuff I Reckon You Should Know.” So here’s the stuff I reckon you should know if you’re planning a post covid trip to Disneyland.
DOWNLOAD THE DISNEY APP
To order food you must use the Disney app - right now they are not allowing you to order any other way so save yourself time and download it before you go.
It’s also great to use the map in it (instead of losing the paper ones, getting them wet, etc) and it tells you how long the lines are in real time to help organize your day! This is a lifesaver to go on the most rides and get the most bag for you buck!
Check out one of the newest additions to Disneyland Star Wars: Galaxy's Edge
If you want to do Star Wars: Rise of the Resistance get to the park before they open - There are only 2 times a day you can sign up for this and you can’t sign up unless you are inside Disneyland and you sign up virtually on your phone. Once right when they open and another time at 12. We were logged in at 12 ready to sign up and as soon as it was opened up it sold out. My brother, Spencer, was most excited about this one so I felt horrible that we didn't make the cut. 😭
NO FAST PASS AVAILABLE - RIDE AS A "SINGLE RIDER"
Right now because of covid, Disney isn’t using fast pass. However, for most of the popular rides there are 2 lines, a regular line and a “single rider line” if you ride as a single rider the line is so much shorter! Sometimes there is no line at all - you literally just walk to the front. We did this for the Millennium Falcon ride: you ride this as a team of 6 on a smuggling mission and each passenger has a job to do. I rode with a nice family who's kids were having the time of their lives and it was so fun to get to experience with them - even if they were strangers.
This saves so much time and for some of the rides like the Matterhorn you don’t sit next to another passenger anyway so you might as well bypass a massive line. If you are a parent going with kids you can still do this ride hack by taking turns with one parent in the regular line with the kids and one parent in the single rider line. The single rider will finish way before the others and can go grab snacks for the family while waiting for the others if you’re trying to be efficient and hit the most rides. Also, also this way no one misses out on any of the fun.
LUNCH: We went to Star Wars Docking Bay 7 Food and Cargo and everyone liked what they got. I got the Felucian Kefta & Hummus Garden Spread (Impossible™ Meatballs, Herb Hummus, Tomato-Cucumber Relish, Pita) and it was seriously delicious. My brother got Endorian Roasted Chicken Salad and Adam got Endorian Fried Chicken Tip-Yip. We were all very impressed. Here’s the Menu.
SNACKS: Get a refreshing Dole Float in adventure land. I didn’t get one last time and have been talking about it since and I was so excited to finally try one - it was just as good as I had hoped! Grab one before a line and enjoy your cool and refreshing beverage while you wait.
WHAT TO WEAR (AND WHAT NOT TO WEAR)
There is not a tram from the parking lot to the park right now - you must walk! I repeat there is no tram you must walk!
Wear comfortable shoes and just don’t care what they look like. You can always crop your pics (and honestly most of ours were selfies where you don’t see your shoes. I wore a new pair of Steven sneakers that I thought were comfortable enough but at the end of the day even my blisters had blisters and I was contemplating cutting off my feet. Wear running/athletic shoes. (please see death shoes in photo to the left)
I noticed a lot of people wearing active wear and - after getting completely drenched on splash mountain - I realized why. First of all, for splash mountain, do it in the morning so you can dry the rest of the day. If you wait until later in the day you will be wet, cold and uncomfortable for the rest of your day.
Second, unless you want to look like you got thrown in a pool I don’t recommend sitting in the front seats. Seems like a good idea at the time but I was wearing a jean skirt that was still not fully dry by the time I returned home! On that note, wear active wear! Something that will dry quickly so you can do all the fun water rides and not be soaking the rest of the day. Next time I will be wearing biker shorts.
Some other recommendations are to bring a backpack with a refillable water bottle and some snacks. Lines can be really long. Some have drinking fountains but best to bring a bottle you can fill up throughout the day. Also, I brought some bars in my bag for when we got stuck in a long line. On the rides I would put my backpack on the floor and stick my legs through the arm straps so it wouldn’t fly off the ride and it works great (minus getting totally drenched on splash mountain).
BYOU (Bring Your Own Umbrella) - Although they try to avoid it, some parts of the lines are in the sun without shade. I saw a family that brought umbrellas in line and it was genius. Bring your own shade.
Also, if you’re too hot (it was high 80s when we went), take a break and do pirates of the Caribbean, the haunted house or Indiana Jones. A lot of the line is inside in an air-conditioned building as well as the ride.
SOME FINAL NOTES:
Masks: If you are fully vaccinated you don't have to wear a mask. Some people still wore them inside and outside. I was a little disturbed to see so many children who were obviously under the age of 12 (and therefore not vaccinated) not wearing masks on the inside rides but I guess to each their own - that's a risk up to individual parents.
Hanitizer: There was basically a hand sanitizer at the end of every ride or at least very frequently sprinkled throughout the park.
Heads-up about Disney Characters: There aren’t a lot of characters walking around because of covid and I don’t think you’re allowed to get close enough to take pics with them either. The only characters I saw were Jack Sparrow, Chewbacca, Rey, a stormtrooper and Stitch.
No parade: There isn’t a parade going on right now sniff sniff 😢
My Top 3 Favorite Rides:
1. Space Mountain (please see photo above capturing the exact moment I think I swallowed my hangy ball in my throat)
2. Splash Mountain
3. Thunder Mountain
Write down what lane you park in! We knew we were on the roof but, I guess in all the excitement, we didn't pay attention to what lane we parked in and each floor is MASSIVE. By this point in the day, I was asking Adam to cut off my feet as we aimlessly walked around this huge desert of cars trying to find ours. Eventually, Adam left me by a pole to sulk about my hurting feet while he found the car and came back to get me. Pretty pathetic.
DIFFERENT BUT STILL MAGICAL
In a nutshell, it was different than pre-covid Disney but it still was Magical.
Have you been back to Disneyland or world since they reopened? I'd love to hear about your experience.
Let's make magic,
JULY 14, 2021
Repeat after me: I’M TRYING MY BEST. AND THAT IS ENOUGH
It's such a strange time. We got vaccinated and thought that meant we could finally burn our masks but now it seems like science says keep them on for a bit longer. We want to get back to normal but there are still a lot of things beyond our control. It brings to mind an episode of the Life Coach School Podcast where Brooke discusses that there are always going to be loads of things that will happen around you that you cannot control. But THE GREATEST POWER YOU HAVE DOES NOT COME FROM WHAT IS HAPPENING AROUND YOU - IT COMES FROM WITHIN YOU. Brooke summarizes it nicely, saying something along the lines of, “just because we can’t control the things around us doesn’t mean we are powerless. We can control the way we think, the way we respond, and the way we act.” So I'm just trying my best to deal with the strange world we live in right now the best way I know how to. I won't always get it right, I won't always get everything done, I will get overwhelmed, I will remember to show myself kindness, I will forget to show myself kindness, but I am doing my best and that is enough.
Check on yourself as much as you check on Instagram 📱.
How ya doing? You taking care of yourself? Drinking enough water? Showing yourself some kindness? There’s a lot going on with everything opening up and reconnecting with loved ones now that everyone is vaccinated. It’s been wonderful seeing everyone but after a year and a half of just me, Adam and Molly, getting back into the world is amazing but also pretty exhausting. So I’ve had a lazy, slow morning and that’s just what I needed. 💖
For me that means a little less trying to balance it all and a little more treating ourselves with love and respect. Molly and I had a sleepover the other night with one of my friends since 4th grade. One of the things we talked about was how extreme we used to do everything. We’d work out so hard for so long and then basically binge drink and eat crap when we were younger. We look back and think “wow I looked so good back then” but really it was such an unbalanced and unsustainable lifestyle. When I was in my twenties with less responsibility it was easy for me to spend 2 hours at the gym everyday. I also didn’t get hungover from partying and could get things done and function the next day. So of course as I’ve gotten older my body has changed as my responsibilities and priorities have changed. How unrealistic it is to expect my body to look the same as it did in my 20s when I basically tortured it. But we still feel the pressure to meet that unrealistic standard because society tells us we need to so they can sell continue to sell us things —weightloss pills, special teas, workout programs, diets, bikinis the size of a q-tip, etc. We value our mind and heart maturing, changing and developing but we think our bodies that house them should remain the same. Maybe you haven’t let yourself go - maybe you’re finally treating yourself with the love and respect you deserve.
𝕃𝕆𝕍𝔼 𝔼𝔸ℂℍ 𝕆𝕋ℍ𝔼ℝ ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Pride is so much more than a rainbow flag. But what does it mean to you? To me, it’s about respecting and loving yourself and respecting and loving each other. Maybe love isn’t 𝘢𝘭𝘭 you need (fundamental rights, food, shelter, a feeling of purpose, community, etc are pretty crucial too) but LOVE is sure is a good starting place. 🌈
I love the way GlennonDoyle discusses sexuality in Untamed. She compares it to glasses that we told people they must pick from - either the straight glass or the gay glass. And that when people didn’t fit into those glasses, they added more glass options. She says that instead of trying to fit people into glasses maybe we should just let everyone be the sea. I loved this analogy because I feel like it is also applicable in so many other areas of our lives, for example, all the pressure we put on ourselves to fit into a certain size clothes when really clothes are meant to fit us, not the other way around.
“…letting old structures burn can feel uncomfortable and disorienting…but ‘progress’ is just perpetually undoing our no-longer-true-enough systems in order to create new ones that more closely fit people as they really are. People aren’t changing after all. It’s just that for the first time, there’s enough freedom for people to stop changing who they are. Progress is the acknowledgement of what is and what has also ways been…
Maybe we can stop trying so hard to understand the gorgeous mystery of sexuality. Instead we can just listen to ourselves and each other with curiosity and love, and without fear. We can just let people be who they are and we can believe that the freer each person is, the better we all are. Maybe our understanding of sexuality can become as fluid as sexuality itself. We can remember that no matter how inconvenient it is for us to allow people to emerge from glasses and flow, it’s worth it. Our willingness to be confused open, and kind will save lives.”
THAT MY BEST FRIEND SHE A REAL BAD BITCH 🐶💁🏼♀️
I call this one Barbie Molly. Happy #woofWednesday from these bad bitches. Inspired by my muse, @mollythemaltishit . In other news, we survived our first flight since covid! It wasn’t super busy but some flyers honestly seemed a little unhinged/nervous (for example, when a man’s card didn’t work buying a coffee he said to the woman at the cafe “does it not work or do you not work?” Which was so rude and unnecessary and I said “hey everyones a little rusty, we’re all getting used to this again.” Seems like there’s room for grace as we get back to things right? I wish I had said more but since people seem extra on edge right now I, shamefully, left it at that). Molly baby was suuuuuuch a good girl - she is such a good traveler and I was such a proud dog mom. Luckily, we sat next to a woman that had two doggos at home so she liked Molly and even offered her one of her chicken nuggets 🍗😂😂😂. And that is why dogs are my favorite kind of people and dog parents are my second favorite kind of people.
I’M NOT FOR EVERYONE 🤷🏼♀️💗🥰
And that’s okay with me as I am a recovering people pleaser. I used to want everyone to like me but now it’s more important that I like me. The more I share here in my little squares about myself (and I guess in real life too) - my beliefs, my passions, my vulnerabilities - the more things there are for people to disagree with, take issue with or rub them the wrong way, but also the more I feel like I am respecting myself, loving myself, prioritizing and honoring who I really am over who others want me to be. I have been able to connect so much deeper with the people who decide to stick around, have had more meaningful conversations and have even created sincere friendships.
It’s not always easy to say what’s on your mind or heart, especially knowing that it will make some people uncomfortable and there will be consequences, but it’s worth it. To quote the (imperfect and flawed) doctor of my youth, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss. I think I’d add on to it - “If they don’t value your heart or what you say, love yourself and get on your way.”
Although it is about time that Juneteenth became a federal holiday, a holiday cannot be in lieu of protecting the right to vote, holding the police accountable, economic equality, reform, protecting civil rights, passing anti-lynching legislation, to name a few. A holiday is a lot easier to get behind than changing/reforming a system built on slavery BUT THERE’S A LOT MORE WORK TO DO.
Hearing the details of Britney’s conservatorship last week is beyond
disturbing. It is her money, it is her
body and it is her life. LET HER LIVE
AND LET HER LIVE WITH THE DIGNITY AND RESPECT SHE DESERVES!
Say it with me: YOU ARE SMART, BEAUTIFUL, BRAVE, CAPABLE & I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
The older I get the more I realize that enough isn’t an amount - it’s a relationship to what you already have 💗. Seeing my family and friends after so long apart, my heart and soul feel so full. Last weekend we celebrated Adam’s 40th birthday! I planned a surprise birthday bash for him in a park overlooking the ocean. The day after, both a little hungover from the celebration, I asked Adam why there was Mylanta in the fridge and he said “so it’s more refreshing.” Then we proceeded to take shots of it. So I guess that’s how old we are.
'TIL DEATH WE DO ART
New Life mantra ✔️. Just painting my way to a life of peace and purpose 🙏.
JUST HOLDING SOME S P A C E FOR YOU. And for me too //
It is my first time in 10 years not taking any ADD meds. In a nutshell, things feel less filtered. My meds made me feel a little bit more in control, like more in charge of what I say and how I act. Things lately have been less curated, more of a free for all, jumping from activity to activity, less filtered thoughts, a lot more strange songs and dance moves. I also get the chuckles at least once a day and transform into Muttley the dog - an uncontrollable, stomach hurting, tears running down my face, laugh/wheeze situation. Everything is just MORE. More intense, more honest, more annoying, more tired sometimes. My body is changing, my mind is changing and I worry how these changes will be met by the people in my life as I am reconnected with them in real life. Talking to my therapist about it the other day, I am realizing that I don’t really have to be worried because if someone is going to judge the way I look or act as I go through this transition they aren’t really a friend anyway. I can’t lose a friend if they aren’t really a friend to begin with. If I have to fit into the space that someone else is comfortable with then, although maybe surviving, I’m not living and I’m certainly not growing into the person I need to or want to become. There is something so beautiful about someone holding space for you and wanting to see, experience and support the real you instead of keeping you in a controllable, small dose based on their own comfort. And even more important is the liberation of holding that space for your unfiltered self. So if you can’t hold space for yourself yet, here I am, holding some space for you. Because I want you - the real you.
THE ULTIMATE GOOD VIBE IS EQUALITY - @jameelajamilofficial founder of @i_weigh
Social media can be such an awesome way to connect with other people. Especially as a creative and especially during a pandemic. I know a lot of us come here to kind of escape the more serious/hard things going on in the world. I enjoy providing uplifting messages through my art and words as we get through this time together. BUT/AND I also know that ignoring (and distracting ourselves from) what is actually going on in the world, only talking about feel good things, is NOT the same as putting good vibes out. Sure, share an inspirational quote - BUT ALSO. DO. THE. WORK. Wearing a good vibes shirt in itself, is not enough to bring about social change - it must be BALANCED by also acknowledging & addressing injustice and planning, supporting, & participating in solutions. One of the reasons I’m thinking about this today is because of a post by @rachel.cargle - I’ll include the screen shots because she is far more eloquent in describing this phenomena than I am. Sadly, her post was in response to some really disappointing and disturbing posts made by a female inspirational/motivational author that I myself admit to having read, quoted, listened to, etc. which has me assessing/thinking about/reconsidering who I follow/listen to/read/watch, the messages I consume, and the people I have looked to for guidance. I guess flowers aren’t the only things that can bloom in spring 💐💗
Choose yourself 💗.
Saw this message posted on @not.a.millennial and it spoke to me. You can’t make everyone happy. Sometimes it may even feel like you can’t even make yourself happy. But you can choose yourself everyday. Choose to put yourself in the game. Choose to invest in yourself. Choose to believe in yourself. I love that for you 🥰
MAMA & MINI 💗.
Illustration inspired by @mumuandmacaroons . These cuties just looked too sweet in their matching outfits - and what is it about baby converse that they are just the most adorable little things! 🥰 love how it turned out so much I added it to the shop for you to customize for you and your mini http://bit.ly/Mamaandmini
Mother’s day came and went and I still have babies on the brain. It’s like your whole life people warn you not to get pregnant and then when you want to, at least for me, I feel totally unprepared. For example, as some of you know I take medication for my ADD/ADHD - no one, not one doctor or psychiatrist or therapist or anyone ever mentioned to me that I’d have to get off my medication (that helps me function) when I wanted to have a baby. How could no one have mentioned this to me?? So if I seem a little all over the place lately - I feel a little all over the place as I am going through the process of getting off my meds. It’s personal to be sharing but I thought I would in case a) anyone else is in a similar situation and no ones discussed it with them and b) if any one has any recommendations for going through this uncomfortable process
MOMS ARE SERIOUSLY BADASS B*TCHES
Until recently, I seriously just hadn’t ever really thought about how much planning and preparing goes into the process of making little humans and starting a family. I know everyone’s story is different, but I didn’t realize all the “before you even think about getting pregnant” things that have to take place, one huge one for me being getting off my ADHD medication. I still can’t believe that no one, not one doctor, nurse practitioner, psychiatrist, therapist, literally no one, ever mentioned to me that I would have to stop taking all the meds that help me function on a daily basis when I wanted to have a baby. Seems like that could have been helpful information to have at some point, right? Anyway, I have another new appreciation for motherhood—all the steps, changes, sacrifices you must make just when your merely thinking about having a baby, then again if you are fortunate enough to cary your own baby, again adapting to become a human incubator for someone you haven’t even met yet. And I seriously just can’t even go into the birthing aspect right now because honestly, that sh*t scares the crap out of me. My point being that all of these are things mother’s do in preparation for a child. Then the child is born and again there are more adaptations, more changes and challenges they must make and face to keep this little human safe, healthy and happy. Basically, it only took me 34 years to realize this, but everyday should be mother’s day! MOMS ARE SERIOUSLY BADASS B*TCHES!
(Also to customize this print for a mom badass in your life visit bit.ly/Ladiekatieshop)
Daunte Wright & the privilege of educating yourself about racism
Another father immortalized as a hashtag and another child left to to face the world without his father’s guidance, presence and love. For a lack of better words at the moment - I am sad and I am mad. I am sad and mad for Daunte, that he doesn’t get to live a full life. I am so sad for Daunte’s son, forced to grow up with out a father. I am sad and mad about the black father stereotypes perpetuated and reinforced by our society - through the movies we watch/the books we read, the way news headlines are crafted, the policies we enact, and the way laws are enforced. I am sad and mad that a black man (with statistically less access to healthcare and insurance) can survive a global pandemic but not survive a confrontation with a police officer. I am sad and mad that children must deal with the trauma of living through a pandemic while also grieving their fathers being killed by the people who’s job it is to keep them safe. I am sad and mad that there are so many non-black people who are not sad and mad about the racial injustice plaguing us or who have chosen not to participate in their own education, reflection and change.
It is a privilege to educate yourself about racism instead of experiencing it. We must call out racism when we see it. Your silence says a lot - it says that you don’t care or you don’t care enough to say something that could be uncomfortable. If you are more concerned about what a racist follower (or followers) may say in response to you posting on social media something that acknowledges the experience and pain of another, you are being complicit and you are part of the problem. So many of us follow people who look like we look, which means a lot of us miss hearing the experiences of people that may not look like us. This is important to note because if for example, you are an influential white fashion blogger, you probably have a lot of white followers. If you share the perspective or experience or support of a POC on your feed, many of the followers who follow you may be exposed to something they didn’t know about or didn’t know was happening. If you aren’t totally sure what to say that’s okay - acknowledge that and try anyway. Don’t let your silence speak for you.
RECONNECTING AND REFLECTING
Last month I had a bit of a cancer scare. I had a freckle on my lip that my doctor had been keeping an eye on and decided we needed to do a biopsy of it on Monday. Cancer does run in my family and I am very very pale, so I have been reasonably, pretty nervous waiting for the results. After my appointment Monday, since we both had been vaccinated, I had the opportunity of catching up with a friend I hadn’t seen the whole pandemic. It hadn’t been two weeks since my second shot so we had an outdoor date but seeing and spending time with a familiar face was seriously just what the doctor ordered. If you are on the fence about getting vaccinated - this is the reason to - Humans aren’t meant to go through life alone! We need connection, affection, attention. I was scared/nervous after the doc and left to my own devices I probably would have just gone home and had ruminating thoughts about the possible worst case scenario. Instead I ate the biggest pretzel I’ve ever seen, laughed, had drinks, and thought about the excitement of the future and the world opening up again. And the vaccine is the way to do that safely. I also just heard from the doctor that the biopsy was benign. So, although, admittedly, there is still a lot of work to do in the world, I am just feeling really grateful to get to continue to be apart of it and to share it with people I know and love - and for the people that I don’t know yet but will meet in the future. Today really is DAY ONE.
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax. And it only took me 34 years to figure it out. Better late than never right? Loved working on a set of custom illustrations for eb . It means the world to me when friends trust me to create something for their businesses. Nothing says “I believe in you and the power of your dreams” more than supporting a friends business - at least in my book. And speaking of books, BIG CONGRATS to eb for publishing “the Empowered ELA Teacher” out June 1st.
I am so thankful for all of the resourceful and dedicated teaches out there. Especially for the ones that were so patient with me asking a million questions, constantly talking and often mixing up either what the assignment was (like reading the wrong chapter and learning all about Fung Shui) or messing up the dates that things were due or sometimes even showing up a day early to things like finals 🙏😳. I’m appreciative to the rare ones that gave me the benefit of the doubt that I didn’t always get it “right” in a traditional sense but I was trying my best and wasn’t a complete lost cause. It’s also been really awesome to 1) grow up and see a friend become a teacher and 2) also see that friend work so hard to make other teachers lives better. This illustration was created for @ebacademics book coming out! So proud to know you and call you a friend 💗
“You better get to livin’, givin’, don’t forget to throw in a little forgivin’ and lovin’ on the way” - @dollyparton
She says she’s not the Dalai Lama but this kinda sums things up doesn’t it? Shared my work in progress of making this portrait of the great Dolly Lama 😜. It’s not perfect by any means but I really just wanted to experiment and let go of all the rules I have put in place for my portraits previously. I shared that it was kind of inspired by @kendallkya . I love how she incorporates such vibrant and unexpected colors in her portraits. She also often uses her canvas as her pallet and just loosely mixes as she goes so you can kind of see all the steps along the way. This was really outside of my comfort zone - I feel a lot more confident painting pooches 🐶than painting people (and a lot more confident drawing people than painting people) but I just tried to focus on having fun playing with colors more than focusing on perfectly capturing the person and that helped get me out of my head.
“Health is also what happens on the inside - and a lot of y’all need to do a f’n cleanse of your insides.” @lizzobeeatin
I love this Lizzo quote and thought I’d share it as she celebrated her birthday last month. I know they say beauty is only skin deep - but maybe true beauty is actually what’s under the skin, under the rolls, the jiggles, the dimples, something beyond the capability of our eyes to see and something we can only feel.
VAXXED AND RELAXED
Feeling way more relaxed and like myself after our getaway to Palm Springs. I realize that traveling anytime, but especially during a pandemic, is a privilege and a luxury that many cannot afford for a multitude of reasons. I think/hope we traveled as responsibly and respectfully as we know how to at this strange time - we’re both doubly vaccinated, our time was spent outside/in the pool, we wore masks indoors, and we drove. But I know having this option to escape, in itself, is a privilege. I feel so very lucky to have had this taste of normalcy and to be able to do one of my favorite things again - talking to strangers (without the heavy burden of fear). I just hope that as things begin to open up again we open up ourselves more too - we begin picking up some of these difficult conversations that we need to be having. From the little boy I raced down the water slides, to the Trump loving family I had drinks with around a fire pit, after not talking to people in real life in so long, it just reminded me how important it is to talk to one another and hear each other. In terms of politics, I probably do not have even one thing in common with the Trump supporter family but they were really nice people - I didn’t even notice the MAGA hat for like 30 mins. I had shared how nice it was to be out and talking to people after being in isolation for so long, not seeing my family for a year and a half and how thankful I was to be vaccinated. Eventually, the dad mentioned how he didn’t believe that Covid was real. Since we had been talking about other things leading up to this point, I shared that I was glad that they hadn’t experienced loss from it but my aunt, the youngest of my fathers siblings, had died from covid. The mom of the family was very kind and comforting about it. We all continued chatting. Not that this will change their world view completely or anything but I think this is one of the reasons why we need to keep on talking with one another, even when we have totally different view points, because underneath the things we disagree about, I hope there is an underlying humanity that unites us. We are people that disagree but we are all people. We can disagree about somethings (even very passionately) but still leave space for the things we may see eye to eye about, like how losing a loved one, is something that, universally, sucks. So, even when its potentially awkward because you think people will disagree, I think it’s important to share your story and speak your truth. They may not be ready for it, but it may be the small thing that causes a small shift, that causes a little crack, an opening to the possibility that other people have had different experiences from ourselves.
Oh hey warrior girl! It’s been a rough year but you are still here! KEEP ON GOING! You are a bit of a looney toon - and I love that about you. Please remember that how you look on the outside is the least interesting part about you. You are smart. You are brave. You are strong. You are funny. Keep on sparkling. You are an avocado - worth EXTRA! 💗, me //
I made little cutie bags for my girlfriends for our getaway this weekend that included little notes to them all so I figured if I write nice things in notes to my friends why don’t I write one to myself too. We all have insecurities (especially after living in isolation for over a year). But it’s such a beautiful and wonderful thing to have people in your life that you can fully be yourself around and they still love you just how you are without judgment. The ones that, after spending time with them, you forget the things you thought you were uncomfortable about. Those are true friends.
“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else.” - UNTAMED by Glennon Doyle
There’s so many words of wisdom in Untamed, I’ve basically highlighted the whole thing but this was one of my favorites. What an unrealistic expectation it is that we can make everyone else happy - we aren’t tacos. Sometimes people you love aren’t going to love your decisions but if you love them for yourself that’s all that matters. When I first met Adam in San Francisco he was just visiting from Australia. As he courted me from the other side of the world my mom strongly opposed me visiting him down under until he had definite plans to move here to the states (she was just trying to protect me from potential heartbreak) but I knew that if I wanted him to move here and give us a chance, I wanted to see his life there too - so I went. And I’m so happy I did! We have such a special love story that I would have missed out on if I had been guided by trying not to disappoint others. It was uncomfortable to disappoint someone I love, in this case my mom, but it would have been tragic to disappoint myself and miss out on this beautiful life Adam and I have created together ❤️.
A little Monday reminder for you: 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗜𝗧 𝗧𝗔𝗞𝗘𝗦!🌈//
Illustration inspired by the original tassel fairy @studiomucci 💗
Side note 💌: I love sharing art that I think will pump you up and remind you how wonderful you are. It feels so good when you comment on it, like it, share it, etc - it helps keep me inspired and want to keep sharing it with you! Sometimes I need a little reminder too! If you like what I create, or heck, just if you are my friend and like me, it would be really nice to hear from you!
Side side note 📝: if your Instagram Carousel isn’t working (ie the ‘Select Multiple’ option isn’t showing up) ➡️ press and hold down on the picture in order for the ‘Select Multiple’ feature to appear 🪄
Your life can change in an instant, they say.
And the world changed in 9 minutes on that day.
One year ago, an officer took away her chance to be daddy’s girl,
And we tell her, “Gianna your Daddy changed the world.”
But that wasn’t Gianna’s price to pay -
He should be here to watch her grow and play.
We shouldn’t know how he died or his name -
But he was playing in a rigged game.
What if we lived in a world that treated black and white as synonymous?
Where George Floyed was just a man living his life, anonymous?
We aren’t there yet and we have a lot of work to do.
Not just racist bigots, but me and you.
White privilege doesn’t mean you’re life hasn’t been hard -
It’s that the color of your skin isn’t your reason to be on guard -
subjected to discrimination, fearing encounters with the police,
or being shot in your home while you sleep.
White people must acknowledge and combat white supremacy, make a choice -
to trade in their privilege for equality to honor George Floyd and hear his voice.
For George Floyd, by Katie Robert
KNOW WHERE TO FIND YOUR SUNSHINE - AND BASK IN IT ☀️
To be honest I have been so excited to see my family and friends but also a little nervous. A bit self conscious about some of my changes surviving a pandemic and getting off my ADD meds - my uncontrollable laugh attacks, my additional curves, less filtering of thoughts and actions, to name a few - but reconnecting has really been so wonderful. Your friends and family are too happy to see you alive than to focus on all the things you pick apart about yourself. We’re all survivors and that looks different for everyone. My mantra in this new world is going be CONNECTION OVER PERFECTION 💗
I saw my parents and brother for the first time in a year and a half and it was the best. Hope you’re having a wonderful Memorial Day weekend.
WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH
March was women’s history month and it lived up to its name with many women literally making history right before our eyes.
For things to change they first must be CHALLENGED. I have so much respect for Meghan Markle speaking her truth last night with Oprah. We don’t get to the truth by silencing people and opinions different from our own. We get there by exchanging, examining and discussing opposing ideas (this doesn’t include the proliferation of doctored false narratives spread by humans and bots online).
While speaking of her mental health struggles, Meghan spoke of the courage it takes to admit that you need help. It also takes so much courage to stand up against a monarchy who’s preferred method of addressing racism is remaining silent publicly while condoning privately. Her interview was yet another reminder of why black history cannot live within the confines of the month of February. It’s not just something that 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 - It is a living, evolving, story. For these reasons, I thought Meghan Markle really embodied what we celebrate for International Women's Day last month.
ANNIVERSARY OF BREONNA TAYLOR’S MURDER
Who would she have become? Where would she have gone? Who would she have met? What would she have done with the rest of her life? What if, instead of her death and murder creating her life’s legacy, she had been afforded the opportunity to create her own, by living?
We are all Sarah Everard. What happened to her could happen to any woman and that is very disturbing. If you somehow have missed it - Sarah, 33, was said to have “disappeared” while walking home on March 3rd. Turns out she didn’t disappear - her dead body was found a week later and a police officer, Wayne Couzens, has been charged with her kidnap and murder.
So much of the discussion has been focused on how she did the “right” things - like wearing bright clothes, running shoes, walking a well lit and populated route, checking in with her boyfriend, etc which has sparked another important dialogue to take place - why is the burden of women’s safety placed on women, rather than on the men that in most cases are the source of the violence against them? Why are women told to sacrifice their liberties to achieve a (often false) sense of temporary safety? Women are the ones that are told not to walk alone after dark, to be careful, to not go home alone, to not travel alone, to take self defense classes to know how to defend ourselves if/when someone tries to attack us, to text our friends or family when they get home, to be “smart,” to not drink too much, etc. Women are told these things our whole lives as if it is our responsibility to prevent violence against us. Which is why the #reclaimthesestreets movement is asking why the police demand women to make the sacrifice of changing our lives instead of demanding that men change and stop committing violence against women.
If you are a man reading this and thinking to yourself “yes but not all men…” Yes, not all men are violent against women BUT ALL women have experiences like this - being told what to avoid, how to and not to dress, have heard “well what was she doing…”, have faced harassment, or have either personally experienced or know someone who has experienced sexual assault or violence. If your response to women bravely sharing their personal experiences of this nature is to change the conversation to “not all men” you are part of the problem. If you actually want to help, heal and create change, what you have to do now is not talk but LISTEN. Then you can learn. And then we can bring about change. As Jameela Jamil posted the other day,
“It’s true that #notallmen harm women. But do all men work to make sure their fellow men do not harm women? Do they interrupt troubling language and behavior in others? Do they have conversations about women’s safety/consent with their sons? Are #allmen interested in our safety? You don’t get to exclude yourself from the wrong side unless you’re actively fighting on the right side. We have a duty to Sarah Everard to keep having these conversations and ensuring that her case is a catalyst for change.
We must do better, and we need both men and women to achieve this.”
HATE IS A VIRUS
Clearly, covid isn’t the only virus spreading and infecting us. Hate is a virus - let’s stop the spread. Although authorities seem hesitant to call the murder of 8 people, including 6 Asian women, hate crimes, it has, understandably, even further escalated the fear in the Asian community for their safety and for their lives.
I don’t think ignoring these issues of racism and discrimination is how we make the world a better place. Willful ignorance won’t stop the spread of hate. These are the kinds of discussions we ALL need to be having to combat hate by raising awareness of these issues and educating and equipping people with the tools to be able to respond and cope.
OTHER THINGS TO BEAR
about the tragedies that have happened in the past two weeks makes me think
what the victims families wouldn’t give for one more hug from their loved ones
and the fact that that possibility has been forever taken away from them.
Instead of bearing arms I wish we would
Give more BEAR HUGS,
BEAR WITNESS (instead of seeing the world only though our conditioned thinking and reactions, we let go of what we we came with, and with open ears, hearts and minds, we learn and listen),
BARE OUR SOLES (loosen the shackles/limitations of who we think we’re supposed to be and embrace who we really are),
Help other’s BEAR THEIR BURDENS (loving our neighbors in humbly serving others and offering support),
BARE OUR HEARTS (speak and share our truth),
And that we BEAR IN MIND that a misused/misfired bullet can permanently take away the possibility of all of these - from victims, from their families, from their communities, in a second.
IS OUR RENT
“Activism is my rent for living on the planet.” - Alice Walker
Privileged people think they can sit on the sidelines of social injustice but WE ARE ALL IN THE GAME. When you chose to use your privilege to not participate in issues of social justice that isn’t “being neutral” or “not being political” - it is enabling the injustice to continue and that privileged decision comes at the expense of your fellow humans. That is choosing a side.
It’s ensuring that there is a winner and loser. What if winning didn’t mean someone else had to lose? If it didn’t mean someone else must suffer for you to succeed? Instead of trampling over others to get to the top, maybe winning is when we work together to lift each other up 👩🏼🤝👩🏽
Do you find yourself constantly striving to "get ahead"? Have you ever taken a moment to think about how boring would it be if we actually could only go forward? How would you park so you could stop and get coffee at your favorite cafe? How would you dance if you couldn’t step back or to the side? We put so much pressure on ourselves to constantly go forward but maybe it’s the sudden turns, the unexpected detours, and the little rest stops that make life a hell of a fun ride. 🚗💨
ADD A SPRINKLE OF SPRING TO YOUR STEP
I have some very exciting news! I know you’ve been wanting some of my most popular prints on items that I don’t sell in my store and I wanted to make them available for you so Ladie Katie is now available on @Society6 bit.ly/Ladiekatieshop and on redbubble LadieKatie.redbubble.com
I’m talking mugs, notebooks, coasters, travel mugs, stationary, clothes, home decor, basically EVERYTHING. It’s quite a process uploading and formatting my art work to be available on all of these different things so please bare with me as I continue to add pieces/variations.
To celebrate, I created this new Mother’s day illustration that you can customize to look like you and your mini. It's available in a bunch of variations --different skin tones, hair colors, and with a little boy or little girl or both. It’s a bit nerve-racking to give up some of the control but I’m also really excited to hear what you all think of the new swag and I can’t wait to see all the different kinds of things you order! I hope you’ll continue to share your pics with me 🙏. And it means I can spend a little less time working on production and a little more time on creating magic 🌈
NO APRIL FOOLS HERE - JUST FREEBIES
Celebrate spring with this months new wallpaper and calendar download, available HERE, for free.
Also, as we all begin to get vaccinated (halleluih!) it's a great opportunity to continue to thank our health care workers for everything they have done the past year for us! I made the MASKS ARE THE NEW CAPES cards available for FREE download HERE. I'm not looking to make money off of them - I'm just looking to make a difference! And I hope you'll join me! No printer? No problem - you can also purchase a pack HERE.
I’m always giving you 110% percent as I live my life’s mission of sprinkling a little hope and happiness into peoples hearts and homes. If you like what I’m putting out there for you - like my free wall papers, calendars, printables and raising money/awareness for the causes I am passionate about, and want to help keep me fueled, you can now BUY ME A COFFEE here - I would be so appreciative of any support and just to know that you want me to keep sharing with you.
One step at a time - we'll get through this together!
APRIL 1, 2021
PAY BLACK WOMEN
How awesome is this sweatshirt designed by @cyndiespiegel , founder of @deargrownasswomen ? I ordered one and can’t wait to get it! Because one month to celebrate and learn about black history is so gravely inadequate - it is up to each of us to take responsibility and to do the work to to educate ourselves because BLACK HISTORY IS AMERICAN HISTORY. Black history isn’t something that “happened” - it is ongoing, and continues to shape who were are as individuals and as a nation. On average, in the U.S. Black women are paid 38% less than white men and 21% less than white women. From age 16, Black girls are paid less than boys the same age—and the gap only grows from there. The pay gap widens for educated Black women. Even when performing the same job, Black women get paid less. I’m a visual learner so I’ve included some helpful graphs I found from leanin.org.
But there is knowing and there is DOING. I’ve included a screen shot of some of Cyndie’s suggestions for supporting the work of Black women—oh AND she’s donating 10% of the profits to Therapy for Black Girls!
This sweatshirt is a great way to get that conversation started and to support Black women, whatever the color of your skin is. Get yours now HERE
And if you don’t know where to start on your educational journey, Rachel Elizabeth Cargle, @rachel.cargle , has been giving prompts this month for Black history that have really illuminated the holes in my understanding of black history, of our history.
SUPPORTING A SMALL BUSINESS IS SUPPORTING A DREAM
The thing about following your dreams, is that it isn’t just one step or decision - like today on the todo list is “follow dreams ✔️.” It is a commitment you must make every single day—to yourself & your dream—to be dedicated to adapt, restructure, and reevaluate, to get you one step closer to where you want to go. I don’t know why, but some people seem to dismiss small business owners as having a cute “hobby” or glamorize how easy we have it, working from home in our PJs and answering to no one. When in reality, running your own business to follow your dreams is terrifying. Rewarding as hell, but also terrifying. There’s no one “higher up” offering guidance or a pat on the back for a job well done. There aren’t many friends who can really understand the day to day ongoings of entrepreneurship because they haven’t experienced it. Furthermore, the lack of understanding often leads to a lack of even acknowledging it at all in my experience, which can be isolating & feel lonely. Additionally, for many creatives, it is an emotionally complicated relationship—It’s not just what we do - it’s who we are. And I can’t (& don’t want to) even imagine a world where creatives are extinct & no longer share their stories.
So even if you don’t totally understand the amount of blood, sweat, tears & fears that really go into someone following their dreams, if you want to live in a world where people follow them, now is the time to support them! I know many people are hurting right now & need to buckle down financially, so of course, please don’t spend money you don’t have. But, if you are fortunate enough to be able to give gifts to your loved ones, whether it be for a birthday or an anniversary, I urge you to consider supporting a small business. You will get a unique gift for your love, you’ll be supporting a small business & you will be supporting a dream. Your support says something - it says you believe in the power of their dream & are willing to put your money where your mouth is to keep it alive. That’s what “we’re in this together” looks like to me.
EARTH WITHOUT ART IS JUST EH
When I share my art it really feels like I’m sharing pieces of my heart - “art for your heart and home” isn’t just a tag line for me. I’m so thankful for those of you who support me and what I love which is why I send you freebies every month to thank you with LadiEmail. I know it’s been such a rough year for so many so I try to send out some positivity and love everyday. If you’re reading this, you are probably one of the people I am thankful for - for engaging with & supporting me/my art. So when I receive messages like the following, it feels like a vulture plucking out my heart. So many times I just ignore the messages but I keep on receiving request like this & it still hurts every time. No creative (or anyone really) deserves to be treated like (or to feel like) this & yet this is asked of us everyday. So when you support an artist - I don’t just mean by purchasing our art (which of course we appreciate!) - but also by commenting on our posts, signing up for our newsletters, liking our photos, sharing our work, etc - it also helps us combat the vultures that try to take advantage of us every day. The entitled people that think for some reason they can ask for us to work for free and provide them with our gifts without any reciprocation or compensation. Your support helps give us the confidence to know our value even though others try to demean it by saying it is valueless by suggesting we should give it away for free. It helps give us the strength to continue to share our gifts with the world and make it a more beautiful place for us all. This is not just about one rude person - this is about a societal issue that artists are treated in this way all the time. This is about the sad truth that, because our work is so personal/emotional/a piece of us (which is why it evokes so much emotion), when others behave in this way it is so demoralizing that many stop sharing their gifts. And what is the eARTh without art? Just EH
It is a hard balance of wanting to explain why it is not okay to ask this of a complete stranger & also wanting to protect my peace (b/c explaining it is emotionally draining). After sharing I got so many DMs that the post hit close to home so I thought I’d share a bit about it here too. For context, please see the original post/comments that were sent to me asking for my art for free above.
I have formed some really great relationships with some influencers & collaborated on projects that benefitted us both & were a joy to be a part of. The way this person went about it did not set things up for one of those situation.
So you want to COLLABORATE? Here are things
to keep in mind:
I am so grateful for the great many of you who are so supportive of me and my craft. The good/supportive people far outweigh the vultures who think they are entitled to my art for free. But because this behavior is SO PREVALENT in the creative community, I do feel that, although it is extremely emotionally draining to have to explain time and time again, it is my responsibility to at least try to explain why this behavior is so hurtful and rude. Because other creatives are hurting too and if my saying something prevents even one person from asking another artist for their work for free it is worth the effort of explaining.
EMOTIONALLY SENSITIVE - HANDLE WITH CARE
It’s been an emotional week. As you may have noticed by now I am an emotionally sensitive person. This doesn’t mean I’m fragile or easily broken. It means I am very in tune with my emotions and the emotions of others. ie I literally feel all the feels. I notice things others may miss. When others don’t, my feelings can get hurt.
There’s not a right way to be or a wrong way to be. But if you are emotionally sensitive too, it can sometimes feel lonely, but you aren’t alone. Your sensitivity isn’t a weakness it is a strength. You may find joy in small things, love deeper, feel more (good and bad) cry harder but laugh harder too. Often, highly sensitive people are gifted with creativity, artists, writers, musicians, etc.
My art helps me express & process my emotions. That is why it’s my love language. So when you receive your orders, just know it’s a little piece of my heart and it’s packed with a whole lotta love. AND IF YOU TOO ARE EMOTIONALLY SENSITIVE, THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. YOU ARE DIFFERENT. AND THAT IS YOUR GIFT 💝 And I want to use my gift to remind you of how special and wonderful you are every. Single day. That’s what these day one planners are about. I hope they make you feel Seen. Remind you of all that you have to offer this world. You don’t have to change at all to have value. You are loved just the way you are. And If you want to better yourself for yourself that’s great too. Either way, I’m going to be cheering you on. Because I think we can all benefit from a little more cheer, a little more support, a little more encouragement, and little more love 💗
I am very emotionally sensitive - I
shared that in my stories this morning. I also shared in my stories that another artist is trying to publicly
shame me for using a hashtag and now members of his community are harassing me. Here’s what happened. I had used a hashtag that I saw another
artist use because I thought it would connect me to other
artists/creatives. I got a message that
I needed to remove that hashtag anywhere I used it because this person wanted
to monitor how it was used. I responded
that I didn’t want to interfere with this persons use of a hashtag but also
didn’t want to remove my posts, go through every post individually to remove
it, (I am trying to run a business and support myself as an artist after all
& didn’t know if I’d have time to go through all the posts and also get my
orders out to my customers), so that I would look up if there was a way to just
remove it from all of my posts at once and I would get back to him. Before I could even get back to him (that I
couldn’t find an option as described), he started posting to his followers
about me & some other artists for being selfish people & other
disparaging comments (I’ve included the screenshots). This emboldened the other members of this
“kind artist community” to send messages (some examples included in which,
unlike how they have been continuing to post about me using my handle, I have
crossed out their names for the time being) that I’d rather promote myself and
my art over a movement like BLM, that I am selfish, etc. What? Any one who follows me or my work knows that I have been creating work
to support Black Lives Matter and raising money for the cause since the
protests began. I have been very active
in the dialogue taking place, and I’ve been sharing parts of my educational
journey, for example, most recently, participating & sharing some of
@Rachel.cargles daily prompts this month for black history, to further my
understanding and in hopes that others (who maybe haven’t reflected previously)
may be encouraged to educate themselves as well. I obviously, no longer wish to be a part of
this community that favors public execution of artists like myself for using a
hashtag. I also do not think that that
it is okay to try to publicly shame people for doing something they are 100%
legally allowed to do. No one can own a
hashtag and, as a lawyer, I have a problem with this bullying/shaming approach
of listing fellow artists handles to cause a backlash to them for not using a
hashtag in the way that he wants it to be used. I haven’t used this hashtag in months (and clearly will not ever use it
again because I don’t want to be associated with a group that would treat its
members in this way - i.e. a group that aims to monopolize how people express
themselves creatively and uses censorship to promote their own agenda). If he asked people not to use a hashtag and
they still use it, they are welcome to do so and should not be publicly shamed
for that. What he is doing is called
censorship, I absolutely refuse to be censored here or anywhere. I also do not wish to censor any other
artists or their view points.
My experience of bullying was very surreal - it was my first experience of bullying since law school (where I founded the association of law students for disability rights to advocate for making the law school curriculum more accessible to students with disabilities). In a nutshell, someone didn’t like the way I used a hashtag and started posting unkind and untrue statements attacking my character, multiple times. Sadly, it was from someone who is also a part of the creative community for which I advocate for and care so deeply. I’d like to take this negative experience and turn it into something beautiful - because heck, that’s what artists do. For every like of my bullying post l donated 25 cents and for every comment tagging another person, sharing it, I donated $1 up to $100 to The Cybersmile Foundation (a nonprofit organization promoting kindness, diversity and inclusion by building a safer, more positive digital community while taking on online bullying). So far we have raised $675!
If you’d also like to contribute to the cause that would be awesome too here is the go fund me link http://bit.ly/ColorwithKindnessFundraiser (link in bio).
Because although often misunderstood, under appreciated and under paid, artists are amazing and the story tellers of our time. We deserve to be treated with the same respect and dignity as any other profession. We get there by supporting one another, raising each other up, (not promoting hate, bullying and public shaming). So let’s color with kindness, outside of the lines (or dots) and make something beautiful today and stand up against bullies!
DOING GOOD ISN’T A COMPETITION 💗
What I mean is that someone else doing good deeds/work doesn’t negate the good that you are doing. Doing good + doing good = even bigger impact. (And for the grammar police I don’t mean doing 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 - I mean doing kind things, things for others, etc. However, even if it’s not grammatically correct, the message still applies to doing well too).
For example, with my anti bullying fundraiser, whether you donate $1 or $10, those dollars add up! The good you are contributing too (both the anti bullying cause and, on a more selfish note I suppose, letting me know you support me)
makes a difference. If every person following my account donated 1 dollar we could raise
$1400 to combat cyber bullying - wouldn’t that be incredible? We aren’t competing here for who can do the
most good for the world because WE’RE ALL ON THE SAME TEAM. And when we work together, the collective
good we create is unstoppable! So if you
Me: I feel like I’m
Adam: You’re not running behind - you’re the only one in the race
The other day I went to the post office. My orders fell out from my overflowing bag and as I was collecting them from around my car, I could feel the eyes of the dog in the car next to me watching my every move. He looked like the bear muppet but with curlier hair. When I got out of the car the muppet dog stuck his head out of the window to greet me. Intently looking down at her mail, I told his mom how cute he was and how he was watching me so determinedly. She was a bit startled that I had said something. She then perked up with the biggest smile on her face and turned to him in the back, proudly asking is “that true - were you making friends?” We exchanged some other pleasantries & eventually I headed into the post office. She left the parking lot smiling and chatting with her dog. I hope when you see my art it makes you feel this way. I hope it wakes you up from the mundane things we do everyday on autopilot and reminds you of the importance of connecting with another person. I hope it makes you feel seen. Heard. Flattered. Celebrated. I hope you leave the parking lot with a big smile on your face with an open heart, ready to take on the day, knowing you’re not alone, that someone out there is eager to meet you and your muppet dog 🐶❤️.
I hope that I am able to continue to make you feel that way but I will admit that it is a lot of work. Even though it was my best year for Ladie Katie, in a day where everyone’s looking for the cheapest deal and free shipping, I can’t compete and I’m not. The expectation that an Etsy seller can operate like that is a fallacy. I know that, to many, it seem like an unrealistic goal, but I want to change the world - even if it’s one heart at a time. Turns out that’s an expensive endeavor (in money, in time, & in emotions). So just as as a heads up - if your eyes and heart have been lusting over something get your order in ASAP because, starting next week, I will be limiting the amount of orders I fill to take some time to re-asses how I’ve been operating and make some changes.
You don’t always have to get it right - you just have to show up. AND KEEP SHOWING UP!
So much of running your own business has to do with experimenting and accepting the fact that not everything will work out the way you thought it would or hoped it would. Things that work for someone else’s business may not work for yours. There’s not one recipe to follow. Any time you have to invest in yourself it is scary. But entrepreneurs do the things that are scary. It’s not that we take risks because we aren’t afraid. We are afraid. But our dreams are at least as big as, if not bigger than, our fears, so we do it anyway - scared and all. By running Ladie Katie, I’ve invested in myself and my dreams more than in anything else, even in becoming a lawyer (I mean, how many people do you know who are using the money they make selling their art to pay off their law school loans? It’s as crazy as it sounds). I’m not giving up on my dream but I will be taking some time to figure out how to best get there and, to do that, I will need to process less orders for a bit. So, if you’ve had your eyes on something in the shop, now is the time to place your order. I have the latest batch of the DAY ONE planners on my desk ready to CHEER YOU ON EVERYDAY and one more shipment arriving next week. After that they will no longer be available. To everyone that’s purchased them already, THANK YOU FOR BELIEVING IN MY DREAMS. Thank you for SUPPORTING them. INVEST IN YOURSELF and GET ONE. TAKE THE RISK. FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS. Aim for progress over perfection. Face your fears. Value yourself. Celebrate your accomplishments. Whatever you do, JUST KEEP GOING. KEEP SHOWING UP. TODAY IS DAY ONE. I believe in you 💗.
Behind the clouds the suns still shining ☀️.
No one can take your light. They may try to block it, to dim it, to demean it or to dismiss it. But the clouds don’t stop the sun from doing it’s thing - shining! You can’t control the haters but you can keep doing you and KEEP ON SHINING ✨. To my yogis and otherwise, the light within me honors and acknowledges the light within you.
What if, instead of underestimating what we are capable of, we overestimated? Or overestimated our value instead of underestimating it? What would we try? What would we go for? Just something to think about as we head into the weekend.
YOU ARE ENOUGH
←This is what the inside of my head looked like yesterday in shavasana. After, I did this quick doodle to capture it and thought I’d share it in case it speaks to anyone else today. ❤️
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I believe in you!
MARCH 1, 2021
“History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, and if faced with courage, need not be lived again.” – Maya Angelou, “On the Pulse of Morning,” 1993
January made us all painfully aware that our shameful “history” of treating people differently based on the color of his or her skin is not really history at all. It is as real and as present as the eyes on my face. Like many white people, due to the color of the face in which those eyes happen to reside, I had the privilege of averting my gaze when faced with any potentially awkward or uncomfortable racial “issues.” In recent months, I have wrestled with the white privilege I have benefited from. Not accepting that that is right or just - because it certainly is not - but acknowledging to myself that it has framed my perspective of the world and that that perspective (ie my perspective) is not representative of the collective experience of many Americans.
Most people know that February kicks off black history month. I hope that, especially in light of recent events, those who historically may let the month go unnoticed, will open their hearts, minds and eyes, to the reality of our history – because black history is American history. Black history is not a footnote. It’s impact/importance/pain cannot (and should not) be contained between the walls of February 1 and February 28th.
Rachel Elizabeth Cargle, founder of the Great Unlearn, is an author/lecturer/educator/advocate, who has dedicated her life to the exploring the intersection of race and being a woman. For black history month she has offered prompts for us all to explore and educate ourselves about. Today she prompted followers to look up “the Middle Passage Ceremonies and Port Markers Project.” If you don’t know what this is, I’ll let you explore and find out yourself because I think that is what is needed right now – for us each to take personal responsibility to not only educate ourselves about our past, but to chose to participate in creating a different future.
I can’t pretend to know how it feels to be a POC but I am committed to see, hear, support and stand with black lives because they matter. And it’s all of our jobs to make his dream a reality. Also, in the spirit of MLK, who couldn’t have spread his message without the help of/inspiration from the strong women in his life - like his wife, Corretta Scott King, mom, Alberta Williams King and so many other female leaders (Ella Baker, Dorothy Cotton, Jo Ann Robinson, Mahalia Jackson, Dorothy Height) - here are some women that I look to for guidance right now: @mspackyetti , @thegreatunlearn curated by the @rachel.cargle, @i_weigh and @mengwe
I WILL NOT BE A BYSTANDER
This illustration was inspired by another recent post by @rachel.cargle. She discussed how so many white people have taken to the sidelines, thinking that it’s enough to not be intentionally racist but leaving actively combatting racism to others. I have seen bloggers, influencers and companies take this approach, avoiding mentioning what is really happening in America or beating around the bush with vague statements of “heartache’ (but no mention of what caused it), attempting to maintain “neutrality” (i.e. not offend any followers or customers). But remaining silent or tip toeing around the issue (i.e. not actively condemning the discriminatory, abhorrent treatment of POC in America) is not a passive or neutral act. It contributes to the bystander effect discussed by Cargle. We all see the urgent injustice but think someone else will take care of it instead of US ALL taking personal responsibility to be involved in creating the unity, equality and peace we claim we want (and sometimes pretend is already in existence).
So, whether it’s in the
streets, on social media or even when I’m at home in my pjs, I am committed to
not being a bystander of injustice, of bigotry, of white supremacy, of racism,
of discrimination, or of the promotion of false information and baseless
claims. If I see something, I will say
something. I hope you will join me.
Like @michelleobama so eloquently put it in her post the other day - “the work of putting America back together, of truly repairing what is broken, isn’t the work of any individual politician or political party. It is up to each of us to do our part. To reach out. To listen. And to hold to the truth and values that have always led this country forward. It will be uncomfortable, sometimes painful process. But if we enter into it with an honest and unwavering love of our country, then maybe we can finally start to heal.”
THE HILL WE CLIMB
“We've seen a force that would shatter our nation rather than share it,
Would destroy our country if it meant delaying democracy.
And this effort very nearly succeeded.
But while democracy can be periodically delayed,
It can never be permanently defeated.
In this truth, in this faith we trust.
For while we have our eyes on the future,
History has its eyes on us.”
Amanda Gorman, The Hill We Climb
Who else was blown away by Amanda Gorman’s poem? All I can say is WOW. Ok, actually I can say a lot more. It felt like anthem to my soul. It gave me goosebumps. I wish I could remember every single line to replay the melody in my head. The one about how we aren’t broken we’re just “unfinished” really hit my heart strings. As well as the one about what stands between us isn’t as important as what stands before us. And as we grieved we grew. I hope that these words will resonate with everyone. That, although it certainly will be a hard hill to climb, that if we work together we can get to the top. That our story is up to us.
In preparation for the comments I anticipate getting about posting an illustration of this historical moment, of people announcing their leaving, of saying unkind things about our elected leaders, I will channel my inner Biden that “disagreements must not lead to disunion.”
We can disagree without being disrespectful. Let’s hear each other out. A difference of opinions is an opportunity for us to learn and grow from one another.
You are always welcome to share your opinion here, I just ask that we do it respectfully, without name calling.
“The American story depends not just on one of us, or some of us, but on all of us.” - President Joe Biden, 46th President of the United States of America
YOUR WORDS WILL GO MORE PLACES THAN YOU EVER WILL
Your words will go more places than you ever will. I remember hearing the saying “sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me” when I was younger and honestly thinking it was a load of crap. Words are so powerful. When used to incite violence they can cause destruction or even death. When used to bully, they can pray on our insecurities, destroy our confidence and breed hate. When used to deliver an apology they can make room for healing to begin. When used to comfort, they can make us feel less alone. When used to inspire, they can plant the seeds of hope❤️. As they pull on our heart strings, they can also pull us together. And when we work together we can do anything. Thank you Amanda for sharing your amazing gift with us.
SHOW ME THE LOVE
I am excited to get started on some new custom portraits for you now that I’ve reopened some spaces. I feel like, especially with things how they are right now, these family illustrations just mean even that much more. Custom portraits are such a special and timeless way tO SHOW someone you LOVE them (even if it has to be at a safe distance for the time being). I thought I’d share 10 FAQ below if you are interested in working with me this year.
❤️FOREVER VALENTINE ❤️
Valentine’s Day has made its way to the shop! “Forever Valentine” is now available for girl and boy moms and with an add on option to add all your kiddos! Customize the skin tone for you and your mini 💕.
YOU ARE PEACHY
I was listening to the Life School Podcast the other day and Brooke said something that really resonated with me. She said that if someone doesn’t like peaches we don’t blame the peach or the person for not liking it. We’re just like “well some people don’t like peaches.” It may be the most beautiful, juicy peach but if someone doesn’t like peaches they aren’t going to like it. Apples are more popular & widely liked, so peaches may be tempted to try to be an apple. But if you are a peach you aren’t ever going to be a good apple. Instead of trying to be an apple to please others & blaming yourself when you fail to be a good one, why not just be - and embrace - the peach that you are?
I know I’m not an apple. When I was younger I would get so frustrated that things that seemed so simple for others seemed to be a struggle for me. I never brought home the right books, assignments took me longer to complete, I’d get in trouble for talking too much, I was always, noticeably, the shortest person in the class, etc. I just wanted to be an apple.
In law school, I was told to be an apple, to only focus on studying, that being at the top of the class was the only thing that mattered. But mattered to who? Not to me - impact & connection are what matter to me & can’t be summarized in a number or a letter. I realized that the parts of me that were different were the areas where, if fully embraced, I could shine the most. The older I get, the less I’ve wanted to be an apple. I realized that the challenges I’ve faced from not being an apple, make me a better peach. They’ve pushed me to learn how to stand up for myself which also taught me how to stand up for others. The things I was told to suppress to be an apple - like my creativity - were the very things that made me a special peach.
So this year I will lose the weight...of other people’s opinions. Of other people’s expectations, of self doubt. What heavy burdens these are to bare. I think I’ll take them all to the dump along with 2020 thank you very much 🗑.
If you find yourself torn between what/who you know you are and what/who others (or even yourself) want you to be, I hope the messages in this years 2021 DAY ONE planner remind you to embrace whatever kind of fruit you are. It’s not a basic apple planner - it’s a rogue, empowering, kind, loving, bad ass, peach planner. I am so grateful for you support of the planners and truly hope that they inspire you every single day! Take a peek below. Order yours now before they're sold out.
IF THEY ONLY GIVE YOU ISSUES, CANCEL YOUR SUBSCRIPTION
As an emotionally sensitive person (which, Hi 🙋🏼♀️,yes, I am), I can struggle with emotional fatigue. When people act poorly, are unkind, or are inconsiderate, it can weigh on me. And it feels like there is a lot of this going on right now.
We all make mistakes. That’s just part of being alive. I think 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝘂𝘀 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵, 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗽𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝘇𝗲 for the hurt our mistakes have caused (I mean it’s “human𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥” not “human-𝘰𝘶𝘵-𝘧𝘰𝘳-𝘩𝘪𝘴-𝘰𝘳-𝘩𝘦𝘳-𝘰𝘸𝘯-𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧”). Apologies can be incredibly powerful, validating, and healing. Unfortunately, some people, lack empathy. They think that if they did not intentionally cause harm, they are not at fault. If they are not at fault, there’s no need to apologize for something. However, whether the harm was intended or not, it still exists. If I trip on a crack in the sidewalk, it hurts to faceplate on the pavement. I didn’t intend to fall, but it still hurt when I hit the ground.
So, although, apologies are a good starting place for heeling and growth, when someone is unwilling to be vulnerable and/or accountable, it is up to you to prioritize your own healing. Acknowledge your pain. It is justified. It is valid. It deserves kindness and compassion—𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮. If someone is more concerned with comforting their own ego than comforting your hurt feelings, it’s up to you to 🅄🄽🅂🅄🄱🅂🄲🅁🄸🄱🄴.
So, although this is the season of love and it may seem counterintuitive, you can have love for someone in your heart without keeping them in your life. This month (and always), remember to show yourself love.
LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED...BUT FREEBIES ARE GOOD TOO
Maybe love is really all you need - but I am not one to say no to a freebie! Click HERE to download this months phone wallpapers (2 options available) and the February Calendar Printable.
Sending you lots of love this month and always.
Raise your hand if you’re guilty of this one 🙋🏼♀️. I sure am. It is, of course, easier said than done. But in times where I may find myself overwhelmed (for example, trying to survive this apocalypse) I can default to making my own paranoid assumptions about other people’s actions. But just because I’ve imagined a reason behind someone’s behavior does not mean that it is true. When my mind is trying to fill in the gaps in the information I have, I try to remind myself that it is just as possible that the world is conspiring to do good. So, as we head into a new year, my gift to myself is practicing trying to be a little less paranoid, a little more pronoid and to remember to keep perspective that everyone’s just trying the best they can right now.
Idk about you, but for me, this year is all about being grateful for the little things. Maybe it’s for your coffee. Maybe it’s for your Amazon socks that included a note for you to have a happy life. Maybe it’s for your floppy hat that hides your dirty hair. Maybe it’s for meeting up with your bestie outdoors for a distanced picnic/gossip sesh. If you want a daily gratitude reminder this print was just listed in the shop HERE .
3. MAKE YOUR HEAD A NICE PLACE TO BE
If you’re going to be stuck in your head you might as well make it a nice place right?
Challenge - write YOURSELF a love letter today with all the things you love about yourself ✍🏻💌
And question the motives of anyone who does! With the start of a new year is the beginning of the onslaught of ads telling you to change yourself. They want you to believe that you aren’t good enough as you are because if you were happy just as you are right now why would you buy their products to “fix” yourself?
You don’t need to make yourself smaller. You don’t need to compromise or accept less than what you deserve. You are not an appliance or electronic needing an upgrade. A number doesn’t summarize your value - whether it be the one on the scale, a plus one (or lack there of) on a wedding invite, or how many likes your post gets. Please grow, change, and evolve but know there is nothing to “fix.” You are enough, right now, just as you are.
5. YOU ARE A GIFT
Dontchya forget it!
my top 9 makes me sad, thankful and proud. Sad because of all the heartache this year caused. For all the people
& families who lost loved ones, to racism or covid or both. That we let
things get so bad. That we failed to
keep each other safe. For the healthcare
workers risking their lives while fighting for ours & the toll of that.
That so much division, selfishness, hate, discrimination & bigotry
exists. Sad that all of this has been
going on all along but that it took a global pandemic & televised lynchings
to expose it to some of us.
I am sad I haven’t seen my family in a year. But I am thankful they are alive (minus the loss of my aunt to covid). For the essential workers keeping us alive. For the healthcare workers fighting for our lives every day. For everyone that is making the sacrifice of not seeing loved ones to help prevent the spread of covid. For the people that bravely risked their lives & stood up against racial and social injustice. For the technology that enables me to stay connected with my friends & family. For the friends that have treated me like family. For the strangers in the street wearing masks. For the people respecting social distancing even though we could all really use a hug right now.
This year I shared my truth. Sometimes it wasn’t popular but I shared it anyway. I didn’t hide behind brand neutrality when it came to the things I am passionate about or that really matter. I am not proud of the story but I feel proud to play even the smallest role in telling it with my art. Because this year was horrible but it needs to be remembered. Not for whatever fleeting lessons an Instagram celebrity posts about her success during a pandemic. But for what we have lost. For what was taken. For the role we all played in that. So that we don’t let it continue. So that we start to take better care of one another. So that we can be better neighbors & better people.
We can’t wipe the slate clean by denying that there’s dirt on it. Now we do the work. We acknowledge the dirt and grime. We take off the blinders and force ourselves to see the mess we have made. We willfully address it, denounce it and remove it. We stay vigilant and wipe often to keep it clean. Our homes. Our hands. Our hearts. Our minds.
VOICE MATTERS 🗣
It may seem silly that I am constantly surprised by how the little messages I’ve sprinkled throughout last years planner/calendar manage to still resonate with me (considering that I am the one that put them there 😜). But I think deep down everyone craves some kind of confirmation and encouragement that they are doing the right thing or doing a good job. Kind of like the horoscopes in magazines - I don’t know how legitimate their interpretations of the stars are but when you would read one that said this month you’ll find love or money or whatever it may be, did it not put a little extra pep in your step or cause you to keep an eye out for such things?
It’s not easy running my own business, managing orders and messages, packing, shipping, creating, etc and also staying on top of my monthly blog posts and newsletter. Especially this time of year when it’s crunch time for the holidays it can feel like “why bother with this month’s newsletter, no one cares.”
One of the messages for last month’s calendar is “your voice matters.” As I struggled with a technical problem getting the newsletter out I saw a message from one thoughtful follower that said “you’re the best. You always see the positive in things. I love following you. Makes my day.” The combination reminded me that my voice matters. And, like this kind comment that pulled me out of a funk when I needed it, let this be your reminder that YOUR VOICE MATTERS too. It is powerful. It can make a difference in someone’s day. What will you do with it?
For more reminders like this one, download the January 2021 Calendar for FREE HERE.
HAPPY NEW YEAR
So Happy New Year friends! We did it - we survived 2020. And if we can do that, we can do anything. If you don't believe that, I'd love to convince you otherwise, EVERY SINGLE DAY. Up for the challenge? CLICK HERE
WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER.
Thank you for being here.
JANUARY 2, 2021
With the holiday season in full swing and how different it will be this year, the idea of not taking anything for granted is on my mind and on my heart.
A WOMAN'S PLACE IS WHEREVER SHE WANTS
"I pledge to be a president who seeks not to divide but unify. Who doesn't see red states and blue states, only sees the United States," - President Elect Joe Biden
President Elect Joe Biden and Vice President elect Kamala Harris’s speeches gave me goosebumps. Discussing it with my friend Lauren, I said I had forgotten what this feeling was - it was JOY. I actually took notes while listening to their speeches - I just wanted to hold onto their words and this feeling for a little longer. My favorite part of Kamala’s speech was this:
“But while I may be the first woman in this office, I will not be the last, because every little girl watching tonight sees that this is a country of possibilities. And to the children of our country, regardless of your gender, our country has sent you a clear message: Dream with ambition, lead with conviction, and see yourselves in a way that others may not, simply because they’ve never seen it before, but know that we will applaud you every step of the way.”
I was moved by much of what Biden said about unifying our nation, but this part just really hit me - “we lead not by the example of our power, but by the power of our example.”
YOUR VOICE, YOUR CHOICE
“Life is less about what happens to you and more about how you chose to respond.” Trent Shelton
Trent Shelton posted this the other day and if you followed my stories at the beginning of the month, it might make sense why it spoke to me. Here’s the gist of it if you missed it - I posted some illustrations of the President and Vice President elect. I received a surprising backlash from followers—hundreds unfollowing me and some posting unkind comments. It wasn’t that people unfollowed me that I found disheartening - it was that merely sharing an illustration depicting an opposing view would elicit such a response. The thought that people with differing opinions could no longer even exist in the same space let alone engage is some civil discourse about the issues we are facing really saddened me and I felt compelled to share that sentiment in my stories.
For those that chose to stick around and engage, I think we had some really interesting and fruitful conversations. Not because we agreed about everything (in many cases we didn’t) but because, despite disagreeing, we still maintained a dialogue. We heard each other out. Perhaps it’s the lawyer in me but, I admit, I do love a healthy debate and exchange of ideas.
I know this has been an emotional time and there are many differing opinions and feelings about the election. But I truly believe we can continue to have conversations while still remaining kind. We can share our point of view and our beliefs without insulting or demeaning the views of others. It is that very freedom - the freedom to articulate our varying opinions and ideas without the fear of retaliation, censorship or legal repercussions - that makes America the great country that it is.
Whether we have similar political views or polar opposite ones, you are welcome here. If I post something you disagree with and you have something to offer for an opposing argument, please feel free to share it in the comments. I encourage the reasoned and respectful sharing of ideas because these discussions are how we change and evolve as a society and democracy and also as people. Not by restricting the viewpoints we surround ourselves with to those that conform to our own but by being exposed to other ways of thinking. I just ask that we share our views civilly, without name calling. And if you are not ready for that right now that’s okay too - I wish you the best. You’re welcome to return whenever you’d like 👋🏻
In your responses about the backlash and sharing your stories with me, I also realized one overarching, reoccurring theme of so many of your messages that I wanted to share with you and that is HOPE. That although so many of us find ourselves swimming in a sea of chaos and uncertainty, we still have HOPE. People have lost their jobs, have lost loved ones from covid, have suffered the injustices of a system build on racism, and yet we are still hopeful. Hopeful that things can get better and hopeful that they WILL get better. I don’t know if things happen for a reason. What I have taken away though, is that when something happens to a person who has hope, that hope supplies a reason.
A person without hope may see one path forward, a storm comes and obstructs the road he’s traveling on and he thinks, “I guess that’s that, it ends here.” A person with hope will look around the same scattered branches and debris and look for another path the storm has cleared, or which branches to move to create a new route or maybe she’ll decide to go in a new direction all together to a place that wasn’t even on her radar.
I WILL NOT TAKE TODAY FOR GRANTED 🙏🏻
Yesterday evening I took a break from my orders and went for a cruise along the beach 🚲.
When it was time for the sun to set, I noticed that maybe half of the people around stopped what they were doing, admiring the beautiful colors painted in the sky and reflecting on the water. Many people had their phones out taking pictures to make the moment last just a little longer.
Some people carried on their business, talking on the phone, running to their destination, practicing their long boarding, seemingly oblivious to the sun’s magnificent performance. There’s a lot of heaviness around us right now. But maybe there are also many things (however small) to be grateful for if we take a moment to notice them and show them gratitude 🙏🏻💕. What’s something that maybe you’ve taken for granted in recent months?
Here’s how I’m expressing my gratitude this month
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. Every year for as long as I can remember, we go to our family friends house in Carmel and celebrate with a whole hodgepodge of family and friends. Obviously, we couldn’t celebrate in this way because of covid this year but I was determined to still make it special. I love home design and décor so I took this as an opportunity to get some new things for our home for when we can have company again and to make our space feel festive.
I also recreated the famous jello recipe that our friend Linda makes every year which really just tastes like thanksgiving to me. That is about as far as my cooking skills take me though, so Molly and I were in charge of cleaning the house and décor and Adam (thank goodness) cooked up a storm.
It was definitely different from other Thanksgivings but it still was a lovely one for the books and I’m so grateful that we were able to celebrate.
the little things in life which includes making these little scrap wood houses. Adam helped me cut the roofs, and I just used
hot glue and acrylic paint to bring them to life. I love giving each one it’s own little
personality. I've scattered them all over the house and every time I see them I hear Belle singing "Little town full of little people..."
See the video for how we made them.
OH MY CLAUDE
Claude got a makeover. He was in okay shape but life had gotten the better of him and he had lost his sparkle (as well as an arm, some prongs on his crown, etc). He was in need of some (pink) TLC. With a little attention, some acrylic paint, hot glue, pink fur, sparkles, and love, he’s not living his best life.
The DAY ONE planner is NOW AVAILABLE! So freaking excited to have another opportunity to CHEER YOU ON all year long! If you’re looking for your average, plain Jane, planner, you won’t find that here! This planner is your reminder that any day can be your DAY ONE. It is your permission slip to yourself to take up space and to dream big. It will be your teacher, encouraging you to be your own biggest fan. Every calendar, planner, and note page is packed with inspirational illustrations and motivational messages that celebrate you and pump you up!
So if you’re ready to get this party started visit HERE
SHOP SMALL AND GIVE BIG
I've been sharing in my stories on Instagram some of my favorite small business for you to check out!
Also make sure you check out all of the new prints now available in the holiday section of the shop. You can even download your own customizable holiday cards!
HANG IN THERE
So, hang in there warrior - and KEEP ON GOING! Keep your eyes and heart and mind open to a path forward and you will find one. Thank you for being you.
DECEMBER 2, 2020
PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY BRITNEY! I LOVE YOU
“Life imitates art far more than art imitates life” - Oscar Wilde, The Decay of Lying (1891)
The other day I posted an illustration of Molly and myself holding a sign that says “you got this” (it’s also on my phone case as a daily reminder). I actually got dressed (not just in leggings), Molly had a shower the night before so she was extra floofy and beautiful, and I had packed up a good pile of orders ready to ship. So we were feelin’ ourselves 💁🏼♀️🐶 and took a pic in our staircase before heading to the post office (which - spoiler alert - was closed because it was a holiday yesterday 🤦🏼♀️). Later, I noticed that the pic we took pretty much mirrored the “you got this” vibes of the illustration I had posted. It made me think about the Wilde quote above and how art affects the way we look at the world around us. I know I’ve told you before that when I was so badly craving for the people around me to say encouraging and supportive words about my work and business and not receiving it, I was inspired to create my own world of support. These inspirational illustrations and messages that told me all the things I was wanting to hear, became the foundation of this years “Someday is Today” planner. The more I drew the supportive illustrations and messages the more I FELT them. It is such a beautiful gift to have the opportunity to share my art with YOU everyday. I can only hope that it opens your eyes in a new way to the beauty that is around you everyday and even inspires you to create the life you’ve dreamed of - even if you have to draw it one frame at a time 💕.
ONE DAY or DAY ONE?
I am just too excited to share the DAY ONE 2021 planner cover with you finally!
Last week was our one year anniversary of packing up our comfortable lives in San Francisco to move to Redondo Beach for a new adventure. We didn’t need to (ie it wasn’t for a new job for ex) but we chose to move outside of our comfort zone just to see what would happen and give ourselves more space to grow. Instead of continuing to say “maybe one day we’ll live by the beach” we decided to make it happen. And I’m so glad that we did when we did.
It can feel safest to wait for a reason to make a change - for example, your lease is up and you have to move anyway, you got transferred somewhere, etc - for someone else to initiate a reaction for you to make a change. But since it’s our one year anniversary of moving, I thought I’d just throw out a reminder that any day can be your DAY ONE. You can CHOOSE to be YOUR OWN REASON FOR CHANGE. If YOU are your reason for making today day one, this planner is for YOU.
I believe in magic ✨. Not just the seasonal hocus pocus but the kind we can find everyday:
♡Planting a seed and watching it turn into a plant 🌱
♡Believing in yourself even when it feels like the world doesn’t (yet)
♡Dolphins swimming right under my paddle board last week
♡Meeting an Australian in San Francisco just visiting from the other side of the world who eventually becomes your husband
♡ The fact that ducks can live in the sky, water and land (highly suspicious but also magic)
♡The gash on your elbow from a childhood tricycle race healing itself (but leaving a war wound)
♡The power of a supportive friend that rallies beside you
♡Being able to recreate special memories for my clients to re-live or creating new moments for them to experience with my art
♡Existing in a world that has lactaid and chocolate chip cookies 🍪
♡Living your dream
I hope the DAY ONE 2021 planner reminds you to keep your eyes and heart open to the magic around us everyday 💕.
I’m holding up one of the 5 cover options (so far) - stay tuned this week for preorder deets 🤗🤗🤗
Tell me about the magic you believe in in the comments ⬇️
It's all make believe, isn't it?
I hope everyone had a spooktacular and safe Halloween 🎃. We got dressed up, took Molly on a walk, made some festive treats, and watched the Addam’s family. It was different but it was nice. What did you do this year?
♡ SOMETIMES MIRACLES ARE JUST GOOD PEOPLE WITH KIND HEARTS ♡
Does anyone else turn into a puddle during the “all good news” portion of the news? I love that often kindness doesn’t cost a thing but it can mean everything to the person receiving it. Isn’t it amazing that we all are born with this gift inside of us (ie kindness) that we can give to others (and ourselves) at our discretion? What a lovely power to have 😌.
Below are just some things that made me happy this month.
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We’re going into the holiday season and there is still so much uncertainty - about whether to see family members, about job security, about how to best keep your loved ones and yourself healthy. I don’t have the answers to these questions for you all unfortunately but I do believe that when you give - even if it’s just a little - when you’re able to it can make a big difference. That's why I joined forces with some other amazing small shops twice this month to bring a little cheer to one of our followers. They each one $500 worth of goodies!
If you want to know about future giveaways like this make sure to follow me on instagram.
All of my fall favorites are available now as a cute wallpaper for your phone. I'm just trying to do little things to remind us of things we love and that make us happy.
KEEP ON GOING!
I'm believing in you until YOU believe in YOU! WE GOT THIS!
NOVEMBER 2, 2020
lounge sets, PSLs, PIE, fluffy slippers, pumpkin everything, slouchy boots,
hats on hats, PIE, Buffalo plaid everything, chunky sweaters, snuggling your
barefoot blanket, and did I mention PIE? ... some my favorite fall things 🍁 🥧 ☕️ 👒🧣🎃👢Have
I missed anything? Just listed this fall faves print in the shop - I’m hanging
it in my office and I can’t wait to see where you hang it too! 💕
With the changing season it's also the perfect opportunity to also change your perspective. In the fall the length of daylight changes and the temperature changes. These changes in environment cause the leaves to stop making food and as the chlorophyll breaks down, the color changes from green to yellows and orange. Like the leaves in the fall that change when their environment changes, our environment has changed so much this year too - did you used to go into an office and now find yourself working at home? Did you used to see friends often but now find yourself living alone and spending the majority of your time alone? Can you no longer go to the places you used to love, like the gym, or yoga, or a particular bakery because it's closed because of covid?
Has your understanding of the social injustice and systemic racism faced by people of color in America changed? If your surroundings have changed so drastically these last 6 months, maybe you have changed too? Do you think you are the same as you were pre-covid? Have your priorities changed? Has your perspective changed? Have YOU changed? Maybe your body has changed. Give yourself the time and grace to adapt to all the new changes you find yourself in. The leaves don't turn orange over night either.
YOUR EGO IS NOT YOUR AMIGO
Besides the physical changes that may be occurring around you, maybe you've taken some time to also observe the changes taking place within you.
Are you trying to BE someone impressive or are you DOING something impressive? The former makes you a prisoner of seeking external validation of yourself from others while the later is purpose/impact driven - it’s not about the glory of being the person that makes the difference - it’s about actually making a difference (whether that receives credit or acknowledgement from others or not). When your motivation is a greater purpose there is room for us all to contribute and find success - we are not in competition with one another - we are working together for the betterment of all. As the pandemic continues and we head into an election, I think it’s so important to reflect upon these motivations in how we treat one another and in who we chose to represent us and lead us.
Democracy is not just a spectator sport and RBG truly embodied that. When prior cases for equality made it to the courts, they ruled in favor of “protecting” the traditional family roles of men and women. The men making the decisions on the courts thought this kind of protection was a privilege for women to receive such benefits and be excused from some of the duty’s burdened by men.
RBG was able to show that these “protections” were really prisons, baring some people from opportunities, and, when we make assumptions about a what a person is capable of based on the body parts they are born with, it’s a disservice to both men and women. In her milestone case she wasn’t representing a woman who had faced discrimination - she represented a man, arguing that the caregiver deduction tax code violated equal protection because it assumed that a caregiver was a woman. Although her client was a caregiver, he was a man, and therefore not afforded the deduction which RBG argued was sex based discrimination against a man.
This type of thinking, of reconstructing the means to get to the end, of how to convince the court that sex discrimination violated Equal Protection, is one of many reasons why RBG is and will always be NOTORIOUS - not for a bad act but because she was a BAD ASS. RIP RBG
HUMAN + KIND
Even though we may look different, have different opinions, different beliefs, different abilities, different sexual orientations, different colored skin, and whatever other descriptions we use distinguish ourselves from one another, at the end of the day, whether we agree or not, whether we like it or not, there is one group that we are ALL a part of - HUMANKIND - and it happens to include the word KIND in it. Things might not be great right now but it sure feels like a great time to show each other a little extra kindness don't you think?
BREONNA SHOULD BE HERE
Breonna Taylor should be here. She should be able to protest, to march in the streets, to hold a Black Lives Matter sign. But she is not able to do those things. Because she is not here. Because she was murdered. for no reason. in her home. by the police. whose job it was to protect her.
September was full of so many emotions and heartbreak over the officers not being charged for Breonna Taylor’s death. I had some intense discussions with people in response to one of my posts. I appreciated the people that took the time to read them and tell me that they helped clarify some aspects of the case for them. In case any one else finds them helpful I will also include them here, in my new BLM section. They are actually quite lengthy, but I think they are important, so I have created a whole new page to break them down. If you have questions about why the officers should or shouldn't be charged, I hope that this helps explain the rules of law that are involved in the case. I will continue to post resources, news and other updates in this new section.
It is an excruciating position to be in - to want to reach out to your friends and loved ones, your community, but because of corona you’re supposed to keep your distance. Keep fighting. Keep going but please also try to find some way, however little it may be, to protect your peace. Maybe that’s a walk or a socially distanced bike ride with a friend. I’ve been spending some time at the beach this week which has helped a little. Loving you all from a distance.
If you want to get your message across from a distance, I've also added these Breonna inspired masks to the shop HERE so you can stand with her even when you're silent.
People say “you only live once” but isn’t it really you only die once? YOU GET TO LIVE EVERY DAY. So it may seem like a strange time to celebrate a birthday but it is actually a wonderful time to celebrate and appreciate the gift of life - and to show and tell the people around you how much they mean to you. As people are feeling more isolated and lonely during quarantine, I think it’s more important than ever to reach out to people on their birthdays this year with a call, a card or maybe even a little gift if it’s within your means. Taking that extra step to remind your friend or loved one that even though you’re apart for now because of covid you’re still there for them and thinking of them is a small act that can really make a big impact. I feel so lucky that I get to help my customers do that everyday - sending your birthday orders to loved ones all over the world to bring them a little sunshine during a difficult time for so many ☀️💕.
I just added these limited edition "My Mama is My Boo" prints to the shop and they'd make a great gift for a mama of a toddler to brighten her day and give her that little motivation to KEEP ON GOING.
SOMETHING TO CELEBRATE
September 29th, Adam and I celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary. I've had a lot on my mind and heart lately and he has really been picking up the slack for me so I wanted to surprise him for a change with something special for our anniversary and I planned a surprise picnic for us at the botanical gardens. It was beautiful and relaxing, to just sit and be together. You have to make an appointment to go and they are limiting the number of people to encourage social distancing so we hardly saw anyone else while we were there. You could almost forget that we are in the midst of a pandemic, until a screaming child runs by throwing a stick with masked parents running after her.
In some ways I guess I'm old fashioned and one of my favorite ways to tell and show someone how special they are to me is with a card. A long ass card. That really is more of a book. This is what my book/card to Adam this year said:
Today is our second wedding anniversary - and honestly it feels like its been a lot longer. And I mean that in the nicest possible way. Life before you were in it seems like it was so many moons ago. It’s not always easy rainbows and fluff, but it is 100% always worth it. You’ve seen me at my worst and you’ve seen me at my best & you’ve loved all the same. You’ve supported me in ways I didn’t even know were possible - with the big tangible things like a new computer for my business. And the laborious not-so-fun-things, like the hours you’ve spent helping me adjust the settings for my sublimation printer. Or making my visions come into being with our old doors wedding project. The little favor-things when I’m so pooped from working on orders & you offer to take them to the post office for me. And in the romantic ways you figure out how to make me feel so loved in only a way that would make sense to me, like with a special newspaper called “The Morning Message” with articles about us. I am proud & so unbelievably thankful to not just be a wife but to be YOUR wife. You’ve always known & have been so supportive that my drive doesn’t come from being a “MRS” - it comes from being ME. You’ve given me both the space I need to do what I do but also added some extra support & stability to take things to the next level. And with you being there right beside me as my partner, my love, my best friend, my inspiration, my mentor, my equal, I am able to continue to reach higher. I really think that together, not even the sky, the moon or the stars are the limits for us. The oceans that once separated us, sure weren’t.
I’m always learning but you’ve shown me how to do things the “right way,” for example using tools in the workshop (even though sometimes I still choose to do things in my own way), how to be more responsible, the benefits of being more organized & methodical, the science behind some of the worlds magic & mystery - and, even when I seem to forget it all, act impulsively, and make a hole in the wall & you hear me in the other room saying “oh no,” you’ve still loved me.
I hope my passion and intense emotions do more than make you nuts. I hope they cut through your walls of logic and structure right to your heart. I hope my outlandish, sometimes absurd ideas inspire you to think without a box at all. I hope all my EXTRA way of showing love oozes through little cracks and boils under your skin until it seeps out of your pores too, unrestricted and flowing. I hope my questioning, banter and debate opens your mind and heart to see and feel things you haven’t experienced. I hope I continue to surprise you. I hope the ridiculous situations I find myself in that seem to not happen to anyone else continue to make you chuckle. I am honored to continue to show you in elaborate, even sometimes embarrassing ways, in matching couples shirts, how much I love you every single day for the rest of our lives. Also, thank you for being a really good cook. I love you Roo.
As soon as I saw the Chanel inspired pumpkins @whitneynrife posted I knew I HAD to make some for myself!
I guess with so much craziness going on in the world I have been overcompumpkinsating and just can’t stop making decorations for fall and specifically making pumpkins! Here’s a clip of how I made these little gorgeous gourds. You’ll never guess what I used to make the logo pumpkin necklace!
Adam helped me 3d print these pumpkins in 3 different sizes. If you want to 3d print them yourself can download the file for free HERE.
If you aren’t crazy and don’t have 3 different types of 3d printers available in your garage, target has some simple cute ones in their dollar section for $3 each. They’re available HERE.
2. SPRAY PAINT
To go with the Chanel theme I spray painted the pumpkins white and black using my fav rustoleum spray paint. This is what I used HERE.
I used my cricut, linked here HERE
to upload the classic double C logo as well as the full Chanel logo. This is the vinyl I used for the black CC logo
The white vinyl was leftover from the starter pack that came with my cricut. It wasn’t permanent so after sticking it on I did a clear coat so it wouldn’t peel off.
If you don’t have a cricut that’s fine too – you can either free hand paint the CC for a rustic touch, or, if you’re more of a perfectionist, you can print out the CC logo on a piece of paper, cut it out and trace it on your pumpkin.
5. WHO REMEMBERS SHRINKY DINKS?
For Christmas last year my step daughter got me a shrinky dink kit. This isn’t the exact one but it looks pretty similar, HERE.
I used my cricut to cut out the CC logo shape and when it finished I had it go over the same cuts again because the shrinky dink paper is thick. It still didn’t go all the way through in some parts and I ended up cutting those areas so it wouldn’t tare. Remember to cut out the image a lot bigger than you want it to be because they shrink down a lot! I also pre punched holes in the top before baking them. THIS is the hole punch I use for small holes.
Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Leave shrinky dinks in for about 2 - 3 mins.
6. MAKING THE PUMPKIN NECKLACE
I decided to make my logo pumpkin necklace gold so I spray painted them after they cooled. Then I made jump rings to attach them to an extra chain I had in my bead box.
Say thank you to all the essential workers - bringing us our packages, our online orders, our groceries, etc - allowing us to be be able to stay safe at home. Print it out and put it on your front door or email it to your friends, to let the workers know we appreciate everything they are doing for us right now. Click HERE to download this free thank you printable. WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER.
SH*TS SPOOKY OUT THERE
It kind of feels like this whole years been spookier than halloween right? But I am a sucker for any opportunity to get festive or dress up! So let's get into the fall spirit with this October Calendar Printable to keep you motivated and to keep you going.
I' m rooting for you Boo!
OCTOBER 1, 2020
I'VE GOT 99 PROBLEMS AND A BIRTHDAY AIN'T ONE
I'm going to try to keep this months post short and sweet because it's my birthday and heck, there's a lot going on! But as it is my birthday eve, it feels appropriate to reflect on some of the things I have learned and am continuing to learn.
The most empowering thing I have ever done, is making the decision to become my own biggest fan. It is an ongoing process and it surprisingly hard work. It is something that I wish I had started practicing earlier - because yes it takes a lot of practice.
It does not mean that I think I’m the best at what I do - I am not - and it doesn’t mean that I don’t make mistakes - trust me, I make a lot of them all the time. What it does mean is that the only limits on what I can do are the ones I set for myself. It means that other people’s opinions do not determine my worth or the worth of what I create. It means that even if a family member, friend or loved one doesn’t value me, my ideas or my creations, it does not mean that these things do not have value. In fact, other people’s opinions of me, my work and my dreams is irrelevant to my actual worth and what I am capable of accomplishing. And, often times, if someone close to you does not support you following your dreams, that has a lot more to do with them than it does with you and your abilities.
This is something I have to remind myself of daily but I have decided to continue to do that, for as long as it takes for me to believe it. You can decide to become your own biggest fan today too. We can cheer each other on. Because, although we don’t need the approval of others to follow our dreams, it is a nice feeling to know that others believe in you too. I think there’s enough raining on people’s parades and not enough brining in sunshine, lighting people up and creating rainbows together.
CARDIO IS HARDIO
But you can do hard things! I’ve spent so much of this year focused on my business that my workouts were taking a back seat in terms of priorities. Which is fine - it was right for this season of my life - but I’m ready to start channeling some of that energy back to my body to thank it for all that it does for me. HERE is the link to my new FAV leggings so that I can “totally look the part” (bonus bestie points if you can name that movie!) - they have POCKETS (all clothing should have pockets in my opinion, also known as snack holders), are high waisted, are elastic free and are $17! You are welcome!
YES YOU CAN
“I told you five times - I need you to believe one of them” ~ @codyrigsby keeping it real as per usual during a @peloton spin class. He also brought up how your body can do some cool a$$ sh*t and I couldn’t agree more. If you get a cut on your finger for example your body will heal it - all by itself! If you break a bone, your body will mend it. I’ve always thought that is so magical - some superhero stuff right there if you ask me. SO THANK YOUR BODY 🙏🏻🙌🏻. Maybe practice being kind to your body today - it deserves it. YOU deserve it 💕
ALL MY PREGNANT LADIES, ALL MY PREGNANT LADIES, OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH
Sorry just got excited and had to channel my inner Beyonce - EXCITING NEWS for expecting mamas - I am now offering digital downloads of BABY SHOWER INVITES 💌🎉. You know this mama illustration I collab’d with @jesshogancrum is near & dear to my heart so now I’m offering it as a digital download in an assortment of hair colors and skin tones so you can customize it to look like YOU. They’re also available with a blue or pink theme. You can easily download them and enter your own text/info into the format I have created for you. Or if you’re afraid you won’t be able to figure it out, there’s an option for me to input the info for you as well 🙊😉 (it’s good to know your strengths right? 🤷🏼♀️). Print them at home yourself or send them out to be printed for you. I can’t wait to see you use them 🥰. If quarantine/not being able to see my family for so long, has taught me anything it’s that if/when you see your family give them a little extra squeeze, celebrate them however you can / whenever you can / wherever you can, and love them and all their nuttiness 🤪.
And I just added matching baby shower signs and and thank you notes! They are so cute and I hope you love them as much as I do!
Also, important side note - my step daughter confessed that she thought that the words to Beyonce's "Single Ladies" were "steppin' on my ladies" so now that's all I hear when the song comes on 😂.
"THERE IS NO VACCINE FOR RACISM - WE MUST DO THE WORK" ~ Kamala Harris
Congrats to Kamala Harris for being the Democratic Vice Presidential Candidate. It is so important for people to see someone that looks like them in positions of power. As a future mother and current step-mother, I am very excited about the possibility of my children to see a female in the position of the VP of the US - And for young girls of color to additionally be able to see a black woman in the second highest office in the land.
As the Student Bar Association Vice President in law school, I had the honor of meeting and introducing Kamala Harris at a symposium on human trafficking in 2010. She already had an impressive record of “firsts” back then which has only expanded since. Some aspects of her record have been called out as controversial (for example her truancy policy) or that she didn’t do enough to get justice for minority groups. She probably didn’t do enough - I don’t know if one person can ever “do enough” to end the systemic oppression of people of color, to ensure justice to all people of all colors, to protect all children, until we get to a point where all people are actually treated equally and fairly, in the eyes of the law and each other. And to get to that point goes beyond the responsibility and power of one person and is something we all must take responsibility for creating and defending.
WE ARE COMPASSIONATE, RESILIENT, DECENT PEOPLE
“This is who we still are: compassionate, resilient, decent people whose fortunes are bound up with one another...echoing heroes like John Lewis who said, ‘When you see something that is not right, you must say something. You must do something.’ That is the truest form of empathy: not just feeling, but doing; not just for ourselves or our kids, but for everyone, for all our kids.” ~ Michelle Obama at the democratic convention.
Recently, it has felt a bit like being empathetic became a sign of weakness - that being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes somehow would jeopardize your own interests. We’ve come to value individual freedoms over the wellbeing of our communities. You may have a right to not wear a mask - but if it can help protect those around you - why wouldn’t you wear one? The message you send when you don’t wear a mask/choose not to socially distance from others is not that this is a free country - it’s that this is a selfish one, one where you value your own comfort/continuing your lifestyle above the wellbeing of others and do not care about the potential, sometimes deadly, consequences of your actions on those around you. It does not reflect the “compassionate, resilient, decent people” I know that we are capable of being. It does not reflect the medical workers and other essential workers fighting so hard to take care of us, risking their own lives for US. It does not reflect the donations gathered, the people who have rallied to take care of their neighbors, the innovators creating new ways to do things we took for granted pre corona, or the America my immigrant husband grew up admiring from a distant corner of the globe.
Our futures truly are intertwined. Now is a perfect time to dust off that empathy (buried under your Nsale loot on the chair in your bedroom that only seats clothes) and put it on like someone else’s shoes. SHOW yourself, the people around you and the world, that Americans CARE FOR one another and TAKE CARE of one another.
“We have mastered the selfie and tiktok now we must master ourselves...
We are going to be the generation that moves from me to we...
We are going to be the generation that dismantled systemic racism once and for all...
We will fulfill my grandfathers dream”
i was so moved by the words of 12 year old, Yolanda Renee King, granddaughter of Martin Luther King jr, speaking last week at the same National Mall her grandfather spoke at 57 years ago, demanding civil rights and economic opportunity in 1963.
THIS MAGICAL VESSEL
𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝙎𝘼𝙁𝙀 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘃𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝗲. 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝘀𝗼 𝙏𝙃𝘼𝙉𝙆𝙁𝙐𝙇 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲, 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿. 𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝘆 𝙃𝙊𝙈𝙀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿. 𝗣𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗽𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗱𝗼𝘂𝗯𝘁, 𝗷𝘂𝗱𝗴𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁, 𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝘃𝗶𝗯𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗿. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝙉𝙊𝙏 𝙒𝙀𝙇𝘾𝙊𝙈𝙀 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲. 𝗜𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘁𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗻𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝘂𝘁. 𝗪𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘽𝙄𝙂 𝘿𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙈𝙎 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝙂𝙊𝘼𝙇𝙎 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝙎𝘼𝘾𝙍𝙀𝘿, 𝙋𝙊𝙒𝙀𝙍𝙁𝙐𝙇, 𝘽𝙀𝘼𝙐𝙏𝙄𝙁𝙐𝙇 𝙏𝙀𝙈𝙋𝙇𝙀. 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝘆 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀. 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝙄 𝘼𝙈 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝘿𝙄𝙍𝙀𝘾𝙏𝙊𝙍 𝙊𝙁 𝙈𝙔 𝙊𝙒𝙉 𝘿𝙀𝙎𝙏𝙄𝙉𝙔.
are my wishes for all women. Black
women. Bi women. White women. Trans women. Atheist women. Disabled
women. Gay women. Religious women. Fat women. Straight women. Skinny
women. A̲L̲L̲ ̲W̲O̲M̲E̲N̲. Every color. Every shape. Every
nationality. Every size. Every belief system. To feel safe, in charge and empowered by the
bodies that carry us - however they carry us.
WHERE MY VIRGOS AT FROM THE FRONT TO BACK
Well is you feelin' that
Put one hand up
Can you repeat that
Tryin' to take my man
See I don't need that
What happened to 702 anyway? 🤔. Whether you think 702 is a time or remember the groups 2014 hit, I hope you'll download this months free September calendar printable HERE. Every month has fun illustrations and inspirational messages to keep you going! Because sometimes you just need a reminder to KEEP ON GOING!
2020 IN A NUTSHELL
Jan - Yay a new year!
Feb - I’ll just focus on my work* (*online shopping)
March - I cook now!
April - I cooked too much
May - what is life?
June - I just need to take care of myself
July - I finished Netflix
August - why bother
September - TBA
Thanks for the inspo Rees Witherspoon.
Okay I guess this post wasn't short and sweet after all. I sure am short but I'm not always sweet - sometimes a little salty
your second biggest fan (second to you),
SEPTEMBER 1 2020
YOU'VE GOT TO START SOMEWHERE
TO GET SOMEWHERE
So just START! Anywhere! ONE. STEP. AT. A. TIME. If you’re too afraid to make a move then you’re going nowhere fast. Even if it ends up being the wrong direction that’s important information too - you are one step closer by knowing which way not to go. Also, if you think about it, what are the stories that you end up telling your friends about? Are they the ones where everything goes exactly according to plan? Or are they the ones where you tried reaching for the gluten free bagels in the freezer isle by balancing on the lower fridge shelf, causing an avalanche of bagels to fall on your head and, when coming up for air, seeing your then-boyfriend/future-husband standing behind you in disbelief? (i.e. ones where you barely escaped a questionable situation?) These experiences that we see as detours because we veer off course may actually end up pointing us in a new direction to explore - or at least make a good story to share. (and yes, I most definitely left the store with the bagels I came for and Adam and I still joke about the bagel incident).
WHAT YOU FOCUS ON YOU CREATE
I was listening to Rachel Hollis’s Rise podcast that centered on the idea of what you focus on you create. When you focus on something you give it more power. So often we focus on things that have upset us or angered us but if we chose to put that energy into something else, beautiful things can happen. As you may have noticed, I’ve gotten really into gardening during quarantine. With so much going on around me in the world that I can’t control, I have found comfort in the little garden world I am creating. It’s hard to put into words the excitement of when you’ve put so much love and energy into something like germinating a little seed, planting it and for it to begin to sprout out of the ground! I think I’ve always seen other people’s unwanted junk as potential treasure - I love repurposing things and fixing them up so they can have a chance at a new life.
I found that seeing the potential in everything to become something else also applies in gardening. Did you know that with many plants you can take a clipping (for ex a piece you cut off when pruning) and plant it in a pot and create a new plant?! When I found this out my mind was blown 🤯 and every branch became a potential new plant in my mind. It doesn’t always work and takes a lot of patience but it is also so rewarding when you see a little green bud start to poke it’s head out of what others may see as just a stick in a pot of dirt. By putting my energy into something like a plant I was able to create something new, beautiful and pretty freakin magical. 🌈
So where will you put your energy today?
Here are some pics of my happy place, The Farm.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK - YOUR TIME IS NON-REFUNDABLE.
This can be a hard lesson to learn. I find myself often wanting to appease a customers’ requests for customizations that aren’t even options listed in my listing because I want everyone to be happy. I often have to remind myself that just because I can make an accommodation, doesn’t mean I have to and doesn’t mean I should. I wonder sometimes where people think my illustrations come from when they ask if I can casually add their dog to mother daughter print as if it’s something I just copy and paste in.
Every aspect of a print has to be drawn by me - which takes a lot of time and energy. I’m not getting that time back and I can’t pay rent with brownie points. If someone wants something custom they can order my custom listing so that they can get a piece that represents whatever their vision is and I am also adequately compensated for my work.
It’s also a struggle when I have custom orders to work on and want to get them out in a timely manner but also really need to take some time for myself. This is an area that I am going to try to work on as quarantine continues.
Are there areas in your life that you’re selling yourself short too?
COMPARISON, THEIF OF JOY, WASTE OF TIME
If the only person you are competing with is the person you were yesterday you are already winning
While I was driving to the post office the other day I was just thinking about how much time we all spend (whether we like to admit it or not) comparing ourselves to others. But we all don’t have the same life experiences, the same hardships or even the same advantages so comparing yourself today to where someone else is today really is like comparing apples to oranges. It also can leave us feeling like failures. But if we choose to only compare ourselves today to who we were yesterday we can still track our progress and self-improvement. Another benefit is that even if you don’t meet your match today - the only person you are competing against is “yesterday you” - who is still you - so you win either way 🙃. And tomorrow you will have another opportunity to show yourself who you are and who you can be 💪🏻 which is the only opinion of you that really matters 🙂.
CHEERS TO ALL THE FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS OUT THERE MAKING IT HAPPEN
Running your own business and betting on yourself is not for the faint of heart.People have dismissed your business as a hobby. Some of those closest to you have avoided asking you questions about your business at all. They don’t don’t comment on your posts. They don’t read your newsletter. They haven’t checked that latest blog post you sent them where you exposed your heart. They have told you “what you really should do is...”. They have told you your dreams aren’t realistic. But your dreams aren’t for them. Yes, you wanted their approval and engagement. But with or without it you stuck to your guns and YOU’RE STILL HERE. Working your butt off everyday - not to show them that you can do it but to SHOW YOURSELF. Because the only opinion that matters about you is your own. SO CHEERS TO YOU ☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️.
I made this special mug for my friend Kimber of @kimbersansonedesigns . I posted about it in my stories on instagram but I think it bares repeating for the other creatives out there who can relate to the words above - If you keep being true to yourself and doing you, you will eventually find your people that support you AND your passions 💗 (oh and she’s the one that makes these adorable book stacks 🥰)
I’m so thankful to be a part of this creative community here where we cheer each other on - where there’s space for us to all shine without dimming anyone else’s sparkle and, like the stars, we help light each other’s way, together making the world a more beautiful place. We all shine brighter together ✨.
BE A HERO 🦸♀️. WEAR A MASK.
HELP SAVE LIVES.
Remember 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘦 - 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘬? Remember 𝘩𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴?!?!
What are you most looking forward to when corona is behind us and it’s safe to be around others? Obviously, I can’t wait to see my friends and family in real life. I also look forward to being able to get lost wondering the isles of home goods in search of treasures ✨.
Health Affairs recently published a study that found that
the growth rate of covid was slowed down when states mandated the wearing of
masks. 3 weeks into a mask mandate the rate had slowed by 2%. “The latest
forecast from the Institute of Health Metrics and Evaluation suggests that 33,000
deaths could be avoided by October 1 if 95 percent of people wore masks in
public.” If wearing a cloth on my face can help prevent over 30,000 people -
people’s moms, brothers, sisters, fathers, aunts, uncles, best friends,
brothers - from dying wearing a mask is such a small ask. Visit
bit.ly/UCSFaboutmasks to read the full article from University of California
Please feel free to share this illustration (with credit 😊) and encourage others to be heroes too 💗.
CREATIVITY IS MY MEDICINE
If you are looking to reclaim your magic, I highly recommend listening to episode 151 of the RISE podcast where Rachel Hollis interviews the author of my favorite book, Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert. This illustration was inspired by something she said in the interview that spoke to my heart - “creativity is my medicine.”
Did you know that August first is dedicated to celebrating the birthday of rescue dogs! So special shoutout to my partner in crime, my rescue, @mollythemaltishit because love rescued us both.
So as I conclude this post (that may be a little all-over-the-place) post, I find myself asking "what knowledge from July can we bring with us into August?" I think it mostly centers around how we spend our most valuable commodity - our time. Do we spend it paralyzed because it's not perfect so we can't share it? Or do we embrace the imperfect as one part of our story that leads us (maybe in not the most direct path, but an interesting one all the same) to where we want to go?
Here's what I'm taking away from July:
1. START. It doesn't have to be perfect.
2. Channel your focus on the good things you want to create into existence.
3. Just because someone asks you to do something doesn't mean you need to.
4. Comparison is a waste of time.
5. You can sparkle on your own but when we work together we can really SHINE.
Want a fun way to help manage your time? The FREE August Calendar printable is now also available for download HERE.
Also re this kind of jumpy post - i'm leaning into it. Because I made a promise to you - and to myself - that I would SHOW UP. EVERY. SINGLE. MONTH. And, however imperfectly that may be, I HAVE. Because this year I am placing CONNECTION OVER PERFECTION. Perfection seems like a lonely standard doesn't it? No room for others input or growth. No room for change. I'd rather show up imperfectly, laugh and learn from all of my strange ways, my mistakes along the way and form the real connections that come from being open to messing up and showing up.
Your imperfect friend,
AUGUST 2 2020
June turned a MOMENT into a MOVEMENT. What will July hold? I've been thinking about what role I play in the moment, immediately, and in the movement, over the long term. Trying to process what is going on in the world by seeing it all as an invitation - a sort of INSPIRATION INVITATION. An invitation to rethink how I've done things in the past and figure out ways to do them better moving forward.
What if we spent as much time working on who we are on the INSIDE as we do on what we look like on the OUTSIDE? If we valued the size of our hearts over the size of our pants? I loved @lizzobeeating’s video she posted about how health isn’t just about what you look like on the outside - health is also about what happens on the INSIDE. She also adds that a lot of us need to do a cleanse of our insides 😂🙊. Which is SO TRUE. How many toxic beliefs and thoughts do we carry inside of us? We’ll do a juice cleanse til we’re on the verge of passing out to be skinny but what are we really willing to do to cleanse ourselves of our prejudices? Our racism? Our bigotry? Our insecurities? Our egocentric lifestyles? Our self-destructive thoughts?
Lizzo’s weight isn’t what makes her revolutionary - it’s that girls and women everywhere can see someone in a successful, powerful position that looks like them, just as they are. We don’t need to change, to shrink ourselves, to take up less space to be accepted or to do what makes us happy. We can play the flute, sing on stage, rap, exercise, right now, in our current bodies, whatever the size, shape, color, or ability. We don’t need to wait for x to start living TODAY.
So many of us spend so much time trying to make ourselves smaller in order to feel worthy of living, putting life on hold until we achieve this, often unrealistic, goal. Literally torturing ourselves, starving ourselves, over exercising, taking pills, to look a certain way on the outside with no regard to the cost of these actions on us on the inside. Society sells us products to meet a beauty standard they created, praying on our insecurities, so that we feel like we must continue to buy their products, focusing on our outer appearance instead of nurturing our whole body, inside and out. Because you can't sell a product to make your insides beautiful. Hard to sell the latest shape wear, diet fad, exercise trend, to people who know their worth doesn’t stem from the number on a scale but it just exists because they exist. Period.
I posted about this on my Instagram and was honestly kind of surprised by the engagement. Apparently, there are many of you who: 1) can relate to this issue and have experienced it yourselves and 2) that were surprised that this kind of thing goes on ALL THE FREAKIN TIME with creatives so I thought it was worth sharing here as well.
I may be smiling in this illustration but here’s a look at what is actually going on when you ask me to create something for you assuming that I will happily do so without you paying me. I thought I would try to explain why it is not appropriate, (and even if unintentional) hurtful, and degrading to ask an artist for their work by making a vague promise of “exposure” instead of payment. There’s a great video by an artist named Jazza (check it out here) where he used these exploitative “offers” posed to creatives everyday in other venues, such as at a restaurant or buying a TV, and how they clearly do not fly.
Don’t get me wrong - true collaborations can be awesome & mutually beneficial for both parties, as they should be.
We live in a time where influencer is a job title. People work really hard to gather a following and work with brands. Generally my experience with influencers goes something like this - the relationships are formed over time, because the influencer is genuinely a supporter of my work, maybe they have reposted an illustration I’ve made & tagged me to share my work with their audience, or bought something from my shop & loved it so much they posted about it or reached out, etc.
Once we’ve developed some rapport, they may DM me about purchasing a print or custom piece for ex. If I think that my art would resonate with their following I may offer to discount my services or do them on the house in exchange for them advertising my work on their platform and not charging me whatever their usual rate is for a sponsored post - ie we are both offering something of value to exchange. The point being that I may chose not to charge a potential client because of the mutually beneficial relationship we develop but that is up to me.
This is very different than those who contact creatives under the guise of offering a “collaboration” but really are just interested in getting free products/do not offer anything of value in return for them. Or “offer” to post a pic on Instagram - that’s not going to put food on my table (also, my paying customers do this all the time b/c they value me & my work and are excited to share it). When this is your “offer” you imply that our work is worthless because it is not worth you actually paying $ for it (buuuuuut you like it enough that you would still like to have it). These are the people that say they “love” my work, are “huge fans” but they haven’t in fact ever done anything to support my art/my ability to continue to create beautiful things to put into the world.
So if you are interested in working with me and value my work, pay real money for it or show the value you will provide in exchange for my work. Just like any other profession. I hope that by spending the time to explain this it will cause you to rethink asking this of other creatives and artists in the future to spare them the insult & hurt. If you appreciate the beauty we bring to the world, support us by purchasing our art, comment on our posts, ask if you can share a photo of our work w/credit to spread the word but please please don’t insult us by asking for our labors of love for free. I hope that you too are treated respectfully and compensated fairly for your time and effort in whatever your job or profession is. That is all us creatives are asking for as well.
June was a long a$$ year…
Even though I created thes